Spirit Sunday: If You Believe It, You Will Achieve It

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With the New Year just starting, many of us have dreams, plans and goals we’re hoping to accomplish. Whether it’s a promotion at work, writing that first book, or building a business, there are things you want to accomplish, places you’re planning to visit, experiences to be had and goals to be reached. Most likely, some will get scratched off your list, and others will remain there for another year. Have you wondered what sets apart those who turn their goals into concrete reality from those who keep hoping? Is their vision clearer than most? Or do they believe in themselves more than the rest of us?

I’ve asked myself the question for years, browsing through the profiles of overachievers on Forbes 30 under 30, or 40 under 40 list. I’ve read many a success story of seemingly ordinary people who started from scratch, pursed their dreams and achieved the extraordinary. One common theme throughout all these success stories, could always be summed up in one word: believing! Most of them had a crystal clear vision and focus. In the book Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill writes “whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve it”. 

So how does one believe effectively, in a way that does not just merely equate praying and wishing, but in an active, result-producing way? In The Answer, John Assaraf and Murray Smith speak about the famous “Five Musts” which must exist to activate success:

  1. You must find something that stirs your soul;
  2. You must become excellent at it;
  3. You must recondition your mind to believe you can have and achieve it;
  4. You must understand how to make money at it;
  5. You must take daily action.

Are you believing effectively? 

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The Memo: Weekly News Update

Happy Sunday! Hope everyone is having a great week-end! It is snowy, wet and downright yucky in the Northeast, but the sun is out today, thank God! We’re in the throes of potty training our last one, and had to host an impromptu sleep-over last night (read noise, more noise, and even more noise), which definitely confirmed we are officially not seeking a larger family. As I’m struggling to differentiate my own thoughts from “hide-and-seek” screams, here is my weekly(noisy) news update:

  • Last Monday, we celebrated MLK Day, and Apple honored Dr. King, its CEO’s hero, in a beautiful way, yet Fortune reveals its employees didn’t get the day off (and they’re not the only ones). After all, shouldn’t more companies observe MLK Day?;
  • Speaking of MLK Day, Pop Sugar had an amazing report on how Oprah Winfrey and the stars of Selma celebrated MLK Day in a major way (by the way, read my review here);
  • In other important news, the State of the Union this week had the middle class in mind (and we’re glad it did). CNN Money summarizes a few points we need to know;
  • This week, women’s rights were definitely vindicated as we witnessed the GOP women take down their own party’s 20-week abortion ban bill, as reported by Slate;
  • Her Agenda introduced Teresa C. Younger, new CEO of the Ms. Foundation, and pioneer of the women’s rights movement (very inspiring read), while revealing millenials stay at a job less than three years;
  • Wondering what to do with your life? Cosmopolitan explains how 10 successful women figured out what to do with theirs, that may just inspire you;
  • Great news for coffee addicts (like myself)! The Washington Post reveals the precious beverage may help lengthen your life and lower depression risk. Ready, set, coffee!;
  • Being a woman in certain industries is tough, to say the least. Elle writes about what it’s like in the restaurant business, and also gives you a sneak peek into the 6 products that should live at your desk;
  • Looking for a promising company? Forbes lists America’s most promising companies, and also gives us a peek into the world’s 50 most sustainable companies;
  • In not so positive news, ThinkProgress broke the news this week about McDonald being sued for sexual and racial harassment allegations;
  • I wholeheartedly agree with Inc‘s argument that more often than not, poor employee performance can be tied to poor management skills;
  • New job? GM’s CEO Mary Barra gives you tips in Fortune MPW on your first 90 days on the job;
  • Another first for women in leadership, as The Economist appoints its first female editor-in-chief editor, ever!
  • I’ll finish this weekly news update with a hooray for Tupperware CEO Rick Goings, who just gained about a million brownie points from women all over, when he proudly declared “It’s a ridiculous economic decision not to empower women’! Yasssss!

On this newsworthy note, have yourself a ridiculously happy Sunday, and as always, thanks for reading!

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Culture: “Selma” Is About About Woman Power Too

David Oyelowo and Carmen Ejogo - Photo: vanity fair.com

David Oyelowo and Carmen Ejogo – Photo: vanity fair.com

At the risk of hopping a bit late on the “Selma” talk bandwagon, I finally was able to put some words on paper about the movie I went to see to commemorate Martin Luther King’s week-end. I wanted to go see “Selma”, I was intellectually craving, literally, this historical masterpiece that I, as a Black woman, ought to have seen in tribute to the late Dr. King. So last Sunday, I fluffed my ‘fro, picked up a few girlfriends, and on we went to go see Selma…

As I sat in a racially mixed audience, under the weight of my own experience as a Black woman, something happened, as I discovered, for the first time, not just the impressive, bigger-than-life MLK figure played by the talented David Oyelowo, the other main character of the movie: the women of “Selma”.The movie, produced by outstanding lady film director Ava DuVernay, opens with Oprah Winfrey’s character, Annie Lee, being unfairly rejected at the voter registration booth for the fourth time. It is said Annie Lee struck Sheriff Jim Clark to the ground after being attacked with a billy club.

“Selma” continues on to introduce us to the other women who, despite the lack of attention being given them through history, played a major role in the struggle. Women such as Diane Nash, played by Tessa Thompson, who was also one of the leaders of the Nashville sit-ins, later went on to be an organizer of the Freedom Rides, and is still alive today. Or Amelia Boynton Robinson, who turned her home into the movement’s central office after her husband’s death, and was brutally beaten during Bloody Sunday.

Last but not least, Coretta Scott King, played by actress Carmen Ejogo, reminds us all what it is to stand by a strong man. My heart ached during the scene when she tells her husband she  can smell death everywhere, and can no longer live this way. Or when she asks him, in a scene filled with guilty silences and heavy meaning, if he “loved the others”. Or when she meets with Malcolm X in an effort to strategize and save her husband. Indeed, next to every powerful man, stands a powerful woman…

“Selma” is not just a piece of history for the books. It’s a reminder that the march continues for all, regardless of race, gender or affiliation. “Selma” is also about the women, the ones who’ve marched before, the ones who are still marching, in their homes, within their families, at work, within the highest spheres of power and at the lowest levels of economic progress alike. We salute them!

It’s about you and I. Period.

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3 Tips to Dress For Work On The Week-End

3 Tips to Dress to Work on Week-Ends - Marled Woven Top - $59.00 - Photo: anntaylor.com

3 Tips to Dress to Work on Week-Ends – Marled Woven Top – $59.00 – Photo: anntaylor.com

Are you working this week-end? I’ve always found dressing to go to work on week-ends particularly tricky. First, it’s the week-end, and I’d rather be lounging around than doing anything remotely associated with work, especially dressing. Second, I like to look good, which is hard when you’re in “lounging” mode, and third, there’s no such a thing as “professionally casual”, it’s like sugar-free cake, what’s the point?

After walking a few years back into the partner on the job dressed in my favorite low-rise jeans and my own 90′s version of the crop shirt, I seriously started considering how looking busted on week-ends at work could cause me a little more than just the aggravation to put up with the week-end T schedule. If I were going to lose my job, I would have liked it to be over something more substantial than low-rise jeans. Someone once said you never lose unless you lose the lesson, well, here are the 5 most important week-end work dressing I learnt since then:

1. Skip the casual altogether! The last thing I want to do early on Saturday morning is think about the difference between casual and not casual enough, or too casual. Besides when I looked around, all the powerful women around me were not exactly rolling in in their sweatpants. Since you’re dressing for the position you want and not the one you’ve got, don’t hate, emulate! I’m not saying, you have to dress up to the nines on week-ends at work or finish up your already severely maimed toes in board meeting-style heels! Instead trade your low-rise jeans for trouser jeans like these, laundry-tried T-shirts for easy blouses like this bold stripe pocket top, and tired sneakers for comfortable flats! if you can’t meet the partner in it on short notice, don’t wear it. Period.

2. Quality is the word! Even if your week-end work style is easier, bank on quality clothes! Cheap is loud! Invest in quality basics such as breathable wool and cotton tops like this luxe silk tee, or well-cut flat-front trousers and skirts. If possible, stock up on classic colors like, black, white, navy and/or brown.

3.Last but not least, grooming is key! Even when working on week-ends, keep your grooming immaculate. Well-kept nails, groomed hair, go a long way towards making your appearance professionally on point. For the busiest, on-the-go ladies, nude nail polish hues are perfect, this one from OPI is my favorite.

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I Finally Got Promoted…And My Husband Cheated on Me!

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Sandra Bullock & Jesse James - Photo credit: examiner.com

Sandra Bullock & Jesse James – Photo credit: examiner.com

I met L through a friend of a friend of a friend (at this point, I probably met her more than she met me, but that’s besides the point). Actually I met her Hermes bag first, which magnetically kept my eyes glued on it as I was introduced to her. Some stare at boobs, I stare at expensive, unique luxury purses; to each her own. Luxurious purse or not, the woman looked incredibly successful. No wonder she had just gotten promoted to Vice President of her firm! Oh and rumor was, as she announced to her dear hubby she had finally broken through that stupid glass ceiling, he let her know he had already broken through her successful career woman’s heart and slept with the intern in Accounts Payable…Ouch!

Typical, right? Brilliant, attractive woman gets to the pinnacle of her career, and less brilliant, more threatened man, cheats, aka the Sandra Bullock-Jesse James syndrome! In a twenty-first century where men’s inner sense of security is still tied to their earnings, despite all the talks about gender equality, closing the pay gap, smashing the glass ceiling etc, making more money than your man or receiving more accolades than he does, still puts your relationship at risk. And chances are, you know it, and you’re doing your best to make him feel like he’s still the man. Things like downplaying your successes, washing the dishes, ordering take-out and pretending you cooked, you know, whatever it takes…

According to this 2013 Catalyst report, 37.6% of wives out-earn their husbands, within the same household. Given that “roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriages”, it’s not exactly surprising these two factors combine to create difficult situations for  and around successful, partnered women, and their partners.

Is the solution to ask women to dim their successful lights? Educate both men and women on the meaning of success nowadays? Or just hope and pray for the best? I don’t have an answer, but I sure hope L found the right answer for her and is still strutting her stuff, inspiring other women and giving purse addicts like myself, well deserved “porgasms” (orgasms triggered by the sight of unbelievable purses, help me out here, please…).

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