by Solange Lopes | Dec 20, 2015 | Career |

Ask the Corporate Sis_Should I Get My Boss A Christmas Gift?
The holidays are here, and the question on everyone’s mind (and wallet) is: What should I get to whom? At the office even more than anywhere else, the question poses itself as stubbornly as an annoying paper cut at the corner printer.
And when it comes to your boss, what is the right thing to do? Are you expected to get her/him a gift, or can you skip the whole gift office thing and go straight the “cookies and eggnog” phase?
My $0.05: If we’re going to go by the gift etiquette rules, technically-speaking, gifts at work should be distributed downwards as opposed to upwards. In other words, they should go from managers to employees. This is so employees may not feel obligated to purchase gifts they don’t want to purchase or can’t afford, not to mention the power dynamic this may create for managers.
What if you just want to offer a nice token of your appreciation to your beloved boss though? If your office allows for “upwards” gifts, a nice alternative may be to collect some money from your entire team and offer a “team gift”. Or to invest in a nice card and some inexpensive homemade treats.
And if you’re still running out of ideas, here are a few suggestions here, here (if you want to get promoted), and here.
Have you or will you be getting your boss a Christmas gift this year?
With Love,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Dec 18, 2015 | Career

7 things your wardrobe can teach you about re-evaluating your career at year-end
Year-end is when I do my annual wardrobe overhaul. You know, that dreaded time for fashion hoarders like myself, when you pick and choose between the clothing pieces you want to keep and the ones you want to keep let go of. If you’re like me, then you know you always want it all, the 60’s dress and the new mod pair of culottes (yes, there’s such a thing). But you know that in order to build a bigger better wardrobe, you need to periodically re-evaluate the one you have, re-assess what you’ve got, what you need and where you’re going with all that fashion stuff (in addition to considering you may have to ask your bestie for storage room).
The same goes with your career: every now and then, you need to take stock of where you are, what you have, and where you’re going. Except your career tends to pay the bills your wardrobe creates. But I digress….
For many of us, it’s especially timely since year-end is also when we perform our own self-assessments at work. Many employers use this time to conduct year-end performance reviews, or generously hand out year-end bonuses
(which can also be used to patch your wardrobe overhaul, but I digress again…).
Yet in the middle of all the (late) Christmas wrapping boxing (ain’t nobody got time to wrap), how do we find the time, resources and energy to re-evaluate something as big as our careers, when some of us have a hard time deciding between the mock neck black dress and the red pencil skirt for Christmas dinner (did I digress again?). How do we pinpoint exactly the aspects of our day-to-day work that keep us motivated, those that bore the heck out of us, and where we honestly picture ourselves in the next 12 months (other than laying on the beach in Punta Cana sipping on some blue shade of tequila…)
Since I do have to tick to my wardrobe re-assessment this year, I might as well share these 7 tips that all this clothing overhauling year-end business can impart on your own career. Plus it’s more fun to think of your career as a big giant closet of fashion goodies, than your own disorganized, overflowing overhead cabinet at work (you know you have one).
Thing One: Start with asking yourself this question: Is your career (or your wardrobe) still making you happy? Is it still fulfilling you, make you jump out of bed (or at least stop hitting the snooze button for the tenth time)? Or do you think of work like you think of that unfortunate handkerchief dress your aunt wore last New year’s eve? The point is, start by honestly assessing how you feel today about the work you are still doing. If this question is making you break in hives, go to Thing 2…now!
Thing 2: Review Your Career Goals. Just like your wardrobe, you must set intentions in your career (believe it or not, fashion has a purpose, including projecting an image of who you are, promoting yourself all the while having an insane amount of fun). What were the goals and intentions you set for yourself this year? Did you achieve them, or did you fail miserably? Did you modify your goals and take a different direction? Or are you planning on modifying them this year? Pay attention to what you come up with when asking yourself these questions. You may just as much realize you’ve reached a career milestone, or that your closet does not at all represent who you are today.
Thing 3: Review Your Year. Just as you may re-play in your minds all your favorite styles you’ve sported all year long, you may want to replay in your mind the accomplishments you’ve realized this year. Or the ones you’ve unfortunately missed. What new skills have you learnt? What opportunities have you taken advantage of, and which ones have you miserably let pass you by? In other words, are you better today than you were 12 months ago as related to your career? And as it comes to your wardrobe, do you like it better today than you did 12 months ago, floral prints and gladiator sandals and all?
Thing Four: Assess where you stand. You know how you look at your wardrobe, and suddenly realize you’ve been living in the 80’s for the past year or so. Yes, it happens…In the same way, take a look at your career as it is right now. Where are you in your career? Are you where you should be, or are you still living in the same entry-level world you’ve started in? Are you happy with where you are, with your current employer and your current responsibilities? Or are you noticing a load of factors that have hindered (or helped) your career growth? What strengths and weaknesses are you aware of?
Thing Five: Picture Your Future. After all the analyzing-yourself-and-putting-yourself-in-perspective, now comes the fun part. Just like you would envision a brand new, maybe more sophisticated, less 80’s, more professional wardrobe, you would envision the kind of career you would see yourself striving in. What do you want to do more of (or less of) in your career? What’s the next step in your career? Where do you see yourself in the next 12 months, 5 or 10 years?
Thing Six: Determine your career action plan. Now let’s get to work. What will you do to get the wardrobe, or the career, of your dreams? What do you need to get yourself ready for that shift? How should you position yourself to get to the career (or wardrobe) of your dreams? The same way you may need to start shopping at Ann Taylor instead of Forever 21, you may want to consider whether you need to switch employers, departments or even fields.
Thing Seven: Share the Vision. It’s one thing to have a clear vision of where you want to go, in your career or fashion-wise. Yet it’s another to really assess whether your plans are feasible or not. And part of this process is to share your vision so others can act as sounding boards to your dreams. Meet with your mentors, or even a trusted manager or colleague, to discuss your current plans and get additional advice as to how to make it all happen.
So tell me, are these 7 elements present in your Year-End Career Re-evaluation Checklist? And if you don’t have such a checklist, no worries, I’ve prepared one for you here!
CLICK HERE FOR YOUR CHECKLIST!
Now do me a favor, and add a comment below letting me know if you have any additional steps to add to this list, or if you’re having difficulties with any of these.
Now I have some wardrobe analysis to go do…
With Love,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Dec 2, 2015 | Career
So the clock just rang 5:02pm, and you’re looking at your to-do list, calendar and inbox, only to notice one glaring, obvious message across the screen of your professional conscience (or at least what is left of it): YOU GOT NOTHING DONE TODAY…AGAIN!
Sure, you scheduled a bunch of meetings, answered a whole lot of emails about scheduling those same meetings, piled a ton of paperwork on top of your desk. End result: you did look busy, but really, at the end of the day (week, month, or whatever time period you can still remember), NOTHING SUBSTANTIAL GOT DONE!
In his book “Deep Work”, author and professor Cal Newport discusses the importance of prioritizing the “ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task.”
What is “deep work”, you may ask. Here are 3 signs, according to Fast Company, that you’re involved in intense, results-producing work:
- You’re working on a problem beyond your skill level
- You start feeling and being absorbed in a flow
- Your mind starts experiencing a state of “strain”
Translation for the rest of us cube and office dwellers: Stop messing around with unimportant emails and boring meetings! Instead, concentrate on work that will fulfill you, make you better, and actually produce tangible results (other than filling up your already busy calendar).
Really, how many hours have you spent organizing meetings during which only the first 10 minutes were productive, and the rest was spent theorizing, checking your smartphone, or thinking about the next meeting? How much time spent looking for an available conference room (aaargh), a convenient time for everyone (because everyone else is also busy organizing their own inefficient meetings), and a nice meeting header?
And let’s not even start with the unending email chains that turn one simple “Yes or No” question about a whole avalanche of considerations around the sustainability of the entire enterprise in an ever-changing business world? What were we talking about already….
“But what if all this busy, unproductive, and headache-inducing work is imposed on me by my manager? What if I don’t have a choice in the matter?”
If you feel you don’t have a choice in the matter, it may be time to schedule some time to talk with your manager. Here are three questions/observations to ask/make to your manager when it comes to truly doing fulfilling and “deep work” :
- What non-essential activities can I limit to produce more results?
- What type of results would take my performance to the next level?
- Would you support me as I focus on “deeper” work?
Having a results-focused conversation with your manager can really make the difference between being a victim to “busy” work and actually taking charge of the type of work that is best for you, your career and your organization.
The second step would be to actually put this into action. This is where the proverbial to-do list has to be ditched, and your favorite scheduling tool promoted to CEO of your Calendar:
- Schedule real work first. You know, the type of work that actually makes you use those brain cells you’d otherwise waste snooping on your in-laws’ last vacation in Punta Cana;
- Schedule buffer time. Yes, that’s right, time to do nothing. That is, nothing but let your mind wander and strategize. This is where you start thinking about what your career will look like in 3 years, where you see yourself in the next decade, and what priorities you are setting in your life.
- Avoid email as much as possible. Restrict email time to specific chunks of your schedule, and refrain from dabbling with it the rest of the time.
- Use the power of outsourcing. There are entire businesses and organizations in the business of making your life easier by outsourcing most basic tasks, like scheduling or email.
- Spend some time alone. Here’s one you may not get very often at work. However, finding some time to be alone, whether early in the morning, or even when you are at work, is crucial to increase your idea generation potential. So much so that many have started meditating right at work.
Now let me ask you, which one of the steps above will you be applying in your career to do more results-oriented work?
Please chime in in the comments…
Love,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Dec 1, 2015 | Career |
Let’s be real, very few of us want to work upwards of 8 hours a day to be charitable to multi-million corporations. And for the least charitably-inclined among us, we would like to climb the corporate ladder, shatter this annoying glass ceiling, and make it to the top with our dignity, sanity, and lipsticks intact, if at all possible.
So what is keeping most of us from running up the steps to the top of our individual corporate ladders (or staircases, remember the high-heel wearers here)? Why do some get promoted fast, and others, well…lag behind waiting for their bosses to retire, die or be caught in inappropriate situations with the new admin, only to be passed over for promotion by the new clean-shaven guy from some big mutual fund in New York?
There are many reasons why some get to advance in their careers, and others get to open and close the promotion doors instead. Some of these may involve really performing above expectations and showing early signs of leadership, while others frankly have more to do with the cultivated art of kissing butt. But I digress…
In a recent conversation with an ambitious and ultra career-savvy Senior Manager, I asked about all this shady corporate promotion business.
And here’s the answer I got: “Learn a skill no one else has, wants, or could dream of”.
She gave me the example of starting out in her current firm as a newbie Senior with a young child, working only 4 days a week to care for her baby. While helping out on a project, she got the opportunity to learn how to use Oracle. Fast-forward a few weeks, and the big department Director is having major headaches trying to use Oracle. As it turns out, she is one of the few who had learned this skill and was in the office that day. Long story short, she got called in to help, trained the big Director, got noticed and promoted in a few short months.
Moral of the story: This career woman knew something very few did, which made her invaluable in her team and department!
What do you know that you can use in your department, team, or organization, that others don’t? If you can’t think of anything, then what new skill can you acquire that would place you in a position to be an indispensable asset to your company?
Here are a few tips you can use to pinpoint new skills you can acquire to become precious to your team:
- Ask Your Manager: Ask your manager the top three (3) skills they would love to see in a top member of their team;
- Ask Your Team: Ask your team members what they are lacking, in terms of technical skills and knowledge, to perform better;
- Work It: Work to become an expert in your field, whether it’s through acquiring a certification, volunteering to publish articles, or be the go-to person for your team and department;
- Be Bold: Take on projects that require special expertise;
- Look Around: Identify cumbersome processes or challenging assignments, and learn the skills required to tackle these.
What other tips would you add to this list? Please chime in.
Love,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Nov 7, 2015 | Career

25 Tips to Win At The Visibility Game At Work
Have you ever felt like you were absolutely invisible at work? That no one suspects your hard-working existence behind the medium-sized cardboard walls of your sad cubicle? That even those well-crafted, insightful emails you keep sending are falling on deaf corporate ears, only to end up in some remote digital trash?
I know what you’re thinking…Isn’t it how the corporate cookie crumbles anyways, some get seen, praised and promoted, while others, well…remain in the dark corners of Cubicle World, punching at an old crusty keyboard with corners swimming in your last brown bag lunch crumbs…Eeek!
I used to think that way. That unless my daughter goes to the same prep school as the Director’s, or am willing to set up a dome tent in my cubicle and spend about 80 hours a week surgically attached to my desk, I would simply disappear in corporate ether. Right? Wrong…
Listen, visibility at work is no longer a medieval advantage bestowed upon the well-connected, overworked and over-stressed of this corporate world. It’s actually become accessible to everyone, like the Internet or free candy at Halloween.
No, visibility at work has become a strategic advantage that can be gained by pretty much anyone willing to learn (and apply) the rules of this game.
Which game, you’ll ask me? It’s called the “Professional Visibility Game”, and it has a few rules one must follow to come out of the Dark Kingdom of Professional Anonymity faster than it takes to type yet another dreaded email request to the IT department:
- Geography matters at work! Yes, where you sit matters. As trivial as it may seem, burying yourself in some unseen corner of the office where the only remnant of your existence lies in your crooked name tag hanging sideways from your cubicle is not going to increase your visibility quotient at work. The very concept of visibility involves being seen, after all. If you’re in a corner of the office where not even the fax machine is relegated, it’s time to move. TIP: Take initiative to ask for a closer seat, where you can have easier access to management as well as your team. Peel yourself away from the convenience of email and instant messaging, and take a walk to actually speak to your team and management. Or schedule some group sessions where your entire team can be in one room!
- Keep a record of what you have accomplished! Maintain a running list of your high-five moments at work. Any task you’ve handled particularly well? A project you’ve gotten high praise on? A new process you’ve helped implement? Document your achievements so you can toot your own horn when the opportune time comes. TIP: I keep a monthly Excel spreadsheet where I track my time by project and list the contributions I’ve made to each project as I’m going through the project. This way, I’m always ready to speak about what I’ve done on a specific project and how much time I’ve spent on it! Bingo!
- Speak up! Speaking of tooting your own horn, share your contributions with your peers and management out loud! However, be intentional and discerning when singing your own praise, you don’t want to come off as bragging (even if you kinda are). TIP: The best time to toot your own horn is definitely during performance review time. But you can also use meetings, formal or informal, to introduce new initiatives you’ve taken and great results you’ve obtained.
- Join professional organizations and networks. Do not stay hidden in your own professional cocoon. Reach out and join professional groups or organizations within your company. Start networking your way out of your cubicle into different spheres of your organization. TIP: Consult your Human Resources site and look for professional organizations affiliated with your company. If not available, contact HR and inquire. Make a list of the ones that would be most beneficial to you and your line of work, and get in touch with them. You can also do a simple Google search of the organizations and networks in your profession, and apply to be a member online.
- Volunteer. Offer to donate your time and skills for a project at work, or even for a cause that your company is sponsoring. It will allow you to be recognized for your efforts, and also to meet new people across the organization. TIP: Consult your company’s Intranet page for opportunities to volunteer and/or donate your time. Within your own department or team, simply ask who needs help and how you can offer a helping hand.
- Be a Team Player. Regardless of your title and position, being a team leader always casts you in a positive light, and increases your visibility at work. Coordinate tasks with others, help out where needed, and show you’re in it with your co-workers. TIP: Interact with your team on a professional, but also on a personal level. Reach out to all the members of your team and find out what everyone’s goals are, then suggest an approach to work together to accomplish these goals together.
- Open Up. For the longest time, I thought work is work, and personal is, well…personal. Right? Actually, not to a certain extent…If we’re going to spend upwards of 8 hours a day at work, then work becomes somewhat personal. I found when I opened up emotionally and became less guarded at work and more vulnerable, it worked to my advantage and helped me get closer to my team, and even management. This doesn’t mean telling everyone about your last marital squabble, or how your kid vomited all over the car for the third time…But what it means is you can be human at work too, and share your kid’s graduation, or admit you made an oversight. TIP: A good rule of thumb I use when opening up at work is this: “If what I’m telling is not going to decrease the value of my work or professionalism, it’s ok to say.”
- Welcome Change. The most visible people at work are people who welcome and adapt to change. Whether it’s switching teams for a period, or dabbling into a topic you have little expertise in, or even working at a remote location for some time, change in your career can propel you right in front of the most influential people’s minds. TIP: As much as possible, accept new assignments, especially if they take you out of your comfort zone. Even better, ask to take on new responsibilities and assignments you’re not familiar with. It will pay off.
- Offer Your Help. One of the most powerful ways to increase your visibility at work (or in life for that matter) is to help others. Whenever possible, offer your help, even if it is to perform a task below your responsibility level. TIP: If you must remember one question to ask at least once a day at work, remember this: “How can I help?”
- Be involved outside of work. The “Professional Visibility Game” is not restricted to the office walls. Get out of your work mindset, and start getting involved outside of Cubicle Land. Organize charity events and involve your team. Ask management to look into contributing to the community. This will show you are a well-rounded person who thinks outside of the cubicle box. TIP: Pick as one of your professional goals to be involved with a charity or community event on behalf of your team, department or even the company.
- Contribute to company and industry publications. Share your professional insights in your company newsletter or Intranet. Look up industry publications and submit a post or article with ideas and tips to help your fellow professionals. This will increase your authority as a subject matter expert, and will have your team, department and company beaming with pride (and exposure). TIP: Look for Submission Guidelines on your company’s Intranet or newsletter, or contact the Media department to inquire about how you can contribute. List your favorite industry publications, and reach out to them following the Submission Guidelines on their website as well!
- Leverage your talents. We all have special talents and skills, some of which we may think do not apply to our day-to-day jobs. Right? Wrong…I used to think my writing skills should be reserved to my side blogging and writing. Until I realized that writing skills are crucial in any career, and started proactively using them at work to write outstanding emails, reports, memos of all kinds. Got a knack for web design? Why not create a web site for your project, team or department? Love reading? Apply it to learn new practices and principles in your field. TIP: List your 3-5 core talents (i.e. the stuff you’re really good at), and for each one, find at least 3 ways you can apply them to your work. If you’re not sure what you’re good at, ask people around you, they’ll tell you!
- Play Smart with Deadlines. Very few people like deadlines. Or rather what people don’t like about deadlines, is the pressure they inflict on us. Start playing smart with deadlines to up your visibility factor at work. If deadlines are being imposed on you, then strive to beat them by starting with the most important part of the project at hand first, then wrapping up the details last. If you’re setting your own deadlines, be conservative by giving yourself ample time to finish so you can actually exceed your deadline. TIP: Go back to TIP#1, and read about the Excel spreadsheet I keep as a record of my accomplishments. On the same spreadsheet, add a tentative deadline for each one of your projects as you start the project. It will give you an idea of what you’re up against. At the end of the project, add the actual completion deadline (you know, the one where you beat your actual deadline).
- Showcase your best work! Never, ever, show less than your best work! This means reviewing your work before signing off on it and submitting it. It also means asking for more time if your work is not ready for review. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when you must ship that report at the midnight hour after typing your last word, but let’s make this this exception instead of the rule! TIP: Prepare a checklist for items to review before submitting a project, and go over your work to make sure you’ve hit all the deliverables. If submitting your work before getting the chance to review it completely, include the caveat that what you’re submitting is a “draft” and not the completed version.
- Ask questions! I know this CFO who requires all attendees at his meetings to come up with at least one question during the meeting. Brilliant! Asking pertinent questions puts you ahead of the crowd at work, and most importantly, make you seen. TIP: Prepare your questions ahead of the meeting to be sure not to miss your opportunity! As a good rule of thumb, have at least 3 questions for each meeting you attend.
- Challenge the status quo: The people who get noticed at work are the ones who don’t always agree with the way things are. Dare to question your team, department or management. You may know of an important element to add to your department’s methodology that would increase productivity two-fold. Suggest it. Toying with an idea to increase team engagement? Put it on the table. TIP: I keep an “Improvement Ideas” Excel spreadsheet where I list any and all suggestions I may have at work. Before each meeting, I pick the ones that are most relevant to the meeting in question, and introduce them.
- Get A Mentor: If you don’t have a mentor in your career, then start looking for one. A mentor will not only provide you with career guidance and insight, but also potentially introduce you to members of management you wouldn’t normally have access to. My last mentor would take me to strategic meetings where I learnt invaluable skills and networked with some of the most influential people in the field. She would even toot my horn to my own managers and Directors, thus pushing me to become increasingly visible at work. TIP: Make a list of members of upper management you admire and would like to learn from. Pick three, and send them an email asking them to mentor you.
- Mentor Someone: It’s not enough to have a mentor to push your visibility up at work. Mentoring someone can also place you in a high-visibility position at work. Offer to mentor a staff in your team or department, and help them as they progress in their career. TIP: Include your mentoring activities as part of your professional goals, and be sure to keep track of your menthe’s performance and document the results of your mentoring.
- Use the Power of Connecting. Connections are a powerful way to up the visibility factor in your career. Go beyond networking to build real connections with people in your team, department and company based on career and personal interests. TIP: Inquire if your organization organizes “Connect Sessions” where people can meet and share insights around the company, and if so, join them. If not, why implement the concept of regular “Connect Sessions” in your team, department, or company at large?
- Participate in company-wide events. Is your organization involved with fighting MS or Cancer? Does it take part every year in a specific IT conference? Strive to participate in company-wide events, and be exposed to more people in your organization. TIP: Scour your company’s Intranet site or inquire with HR about company-wide events. Pick the ones that are most related to your field or most interesting to you, and try participating as much as you can.
- Be the organizer! Whip out your organization skills, and come up with original team or department events. Not only is it a great way to foster a strong team spirit, but it also will help you stand out from the rest of the professional crowd. TIP: Volunteer to organize and coordinate regular team and/or department events. Even better, find a way to get everyone together at a low or no cost, which will make you look even smarter!
- Don’t be afraid to introduce yourself! I remember this very charismatic new employee who would introduce himself to most people he would meet at work. As quick as he was to introduce himself, he ended up being noticed and known by most people in the office. So much so that as soon as an opportunity for promotion presented itself, his managers thought of him first. TIP: Do not enter a room or meeting at work without introducing yourself first. The more people know your name and face, the more opportunities you may be offered.
- Make HR your ally! Very few people use the HR resources at their disposal to stand out at work. Consult with HR on ways to advance your career, and be more visible at work. You’d be surprised what a motivated Human Resources expert can do for you and your career. TIP: Have a preferred contact in Human Resources that you can reach out to for career advice and/or questions.
- Ask for help! Vulnerability at work is way underrated. There is something about a professional who is competent, but also able to ask for help when needed. Instead of spinning your wheels trying to figure out a solution for every problem, reach out to others (even your more junior-level colleagues)! You will be perceived as someone willing to learn, and will make more genuine contacts this way. TIP: Every time you ask a co-worker or superior for help, make sure to express gratitude by sending a nice thank you email or thank you card!
- Say Thank You! Gratitude goes a long way, at work and in life. Make it a regular practice to say thank you, not just to people who help you, but also to every person you work with. TIP: Use special holidays to send a thoughtful thank you email or card to your manager and co-workers. You can even extend this to other professional contacts, on Linked In for instance. If necessary, set a regular reminder to do so.
In conclusion, winning at the visibility game is not just reserved for the well-connected or self-promoting select few! You can use these tips to pull yourself out of Professional darkness into the light of Professional Visibility at work.
Do you have any other tips to add to the list? Or have you applied any of these tips and gotten great success at work? Speak your mind and let us know in the comments…
PS: As a bonus, I’ve prepared this Professional Visibility Cheat Sheet you can use to check all the ways y0u can make yourself seen and remembered at work.
Click HERE for your Professional Visibility Checklist!
With Love,
The Corporate Sis.