by Solange Lopes | Sep 29, 2014 | Career |
Bullied at work – she knows.com
I wrote earlier about the silent bullying of moms at work. This doesn’t just extend to mothers, but literally to more than half women who say they are bullied at work.
Whether out of shame or fear, we don’t like to talk about being bullied. And due to the mixed, mostly-male and hierarchy-based messages we get at work, we may not even be sure what professional bullying really is. Yet, if there’s one thing we know, is that it feels like anything but good…
What if we started to ask ourselves the question? What if by asking ourselves the question and verbalizing some of our most secret struggles and challenges at work, we prompted companies to do the same?
Are you being bullied at work? Please feel free to take the confidential survey below, or if it’s more comfortable, to start with answering the question for yourself
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 29, 2014 | Career |
I’m all into tulips these days (check out my previous selections here and here too). I’m loving this modern take on the classic wrap dress, with a flattering tulip hem, and soft jersey fabric featuring a surplice neckline and twisted side with a cascading ruffle.
This dress is flattering enough to limit the amount of jewelry and simplify your hairstyle. I’d pull my hair in a low ponytail or bun as in the picture, and keep the jewelry on the down-low. However, since the neckline looks a bit low (as also stated on the reviews), I would pair this with a black camisole like this seamless cami for greater comfort (and decreased wardrobe malfunctions).
Fragola heels – $80 -aldo.com
And to merchandise this feminine dress, I’d throw in these women’s heels in Bordeaux, and voila!
This dress is $98 at WhiteHouseBlackMarket.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 29, 2014 | Career |
The Silent bullying of mothers at work – Photo credit: essence.com
“This would have been a great project, but you know the hours are long, and you are a mom!”
“We took you off this trip because you know, you have kids!”
Many are the stories and scenarios in which professional mothers are bullied at work constantly. And many are the mostly irrational theories about why women simply don’t make good workers, one of them being that apparently we just happen to be obsessed with babies (which also must be linked with the whole cooing doll thing for girls and roaring cars for boys). And of course it all certainly explains with quasi-mathematical accuracy why women are unable to remain in the workforce, or advance in the corporate ranks.
Yet what is not so much exposed is the insidious, at times vicious of bullying of mothers in the workplace. Of course, there is much less data available to actually quantify the missed opportunities, non-inclusive meetings and countless slights made towards women on account of this so weird and unusual thing called Motherhood.
These are realities that most women at work are very familiar with. Unfortunately, they also happen to be our “dirty” little secrets, those awful experiences we discuss more among ourselves but would think twice about reporting to management or Human Resources.
There is a silent epidemic of bullying mothers at work. And it happens to be more costly than just the wage gap or motherhood penalty. It costs many of us our sanity, sense of self-worth, ambition, and defers our dreams. And because it’s not a loud number or imposing statistical figure, or doesn’t really have a name to call its own, it tends to go undenounced.
So next time you see another woman leave the workforce to stay with her kids, respect her choice. Yet as you say good-bye, you may want to think about whether she took the path of least resistance, or if… she’s really just obsessed with babies…
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 28, 2014 | Career
Happy Sunday! I hope everyone’s having a great week-end! Dear Hubby and I went on a wine tour and tasting yesterday at the Newport Vineyards, and had a wonderful time (and I’m glad I didn’t have to drive after that
Weekly news update – Photo credit: http://drshannonreece.files.wordpress.com
…). As we’re relaxing and getting ready for a new week, here are the headlines that made me smile, laugh and straight up shake my head:
- So Wall Street may be a boys’ club, Bloomberg BusinessWeek tells us about five Wall Street companies with great paid leave;
- Yes, tomorrow is Monday, again! Fast Company tips us off on how to turn Monday into a day you actually enjoy (yes, it is possible);
- HuffPost Business asks the question: “Is your office space yoga-able” (and yes, unless you work in a shoe closet, it’s doable);
- Refinery 29 writes about how one woman is revolutionizing things for new moms in the start-up world;
- HuffPost Women lists 9 qualities of confident women (and #1 is my absolute favorite);
- PBS News Hour reveals black college grads face greater student loan burden than whites;
- Mashable answers the empowerment question for women and girls everywhere, and technology seems to be the key;
- Worried about which college to attend? Lifehacker compares colleges based on graduate salary;
- WhoWhatWear shows us 5 perfect pants to complete our work-to-week-end look;
- This week saw the return of our favorite Gladiator Olivia Pope, and The Corporate Sister was all over it with the Scandal fashion collection at The Limited.
Happy Sunday!
by Solange Lopes | Sep 26, 2014 | Career |
Post-It Plus App – Photo credit: Fastcompany.com
I love Post-it notes (check out my recent post on related gadgets). And when I read about the new Post-It Plus app in Fast Company, I did my happy dance, inside.
If you love jotting down your random thoughts, stuff to do, or how much you wish your pesky co-worker came with a mute button, you’ll love this iPhone and iPad app too. It allows you to snap a pic of all your random post-it notes, which in turn get digitized and voila!
Bonus: You can save all your team’s Post-It business in Evernote, Dropbox, Excel or PowerPoint!
My $0.05: Get.It.Now.
The Corporate Sis.
