What Lupita Nyong’O’s Oscar Win Taught Us Last Night

Lupita Nyongo - independent.co.uk

Lupita Nyongo – independent.co.uk

Happy Monday!

Last night, millions of people across the planet watched Kenyan actress Lupita Nyong’O win the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in the epic “12 Years a Slave”. I know I did, and I can’t even begin to explain the feelings of pride and sheer joy that overtook me as I watched this young woman transcend centuries-old race and gender barriers, to claim an honor that has seldom been given to women like her.

She closed her beautiful acceptance speech with this phrase that will forever stay with me: “No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid!”. As we head to work this morning to start a new week, as we struggle as corporate sisters to establish our footing in a corporate world where very few look like us, let’s remember that our dreams of success and achievement are also valid. That we can achieve our best even as the odds seem insurmountable. That with hard work, dedication and sheer genuine commitment to our careers, we can also make it to the top.

We saw it last night, and we need to be getting ready to see it over and over and over again,s tarting with our own selves. It can be done, it has been done, and will be done again, and for that reason, we are to keep on keepin’ on, and keep pushing until we can finally make it…

And if you’re in need of inspiration this morning, please watch Lupita’s Oscar acceptance speech last night, and be reminded that your dreams are valid:

The Corporate Sister.

Lunch Break: Belted Ponte Knit Sheath Dress

Vince Camuto ponte knit sheath dress - $118 - nordstrom.com

Vince Camuto ponte knit sheath dress – $118 – nordstrom.com

Four our lunch break today, we are in awe of this Vince Camuto belted print ponte knit sheath dress from Nordstrom. I love the graphic geometric print and the flattering V-neckline (although I would probably wear a black camisole under just to keep things kosher for work). And for a slimmer silhouette (and who doesn’t need a slimmer silhouette, I know I do), the back black panel keeps everything in check and creates the illusion of a smaller waist in proportion to the rest of your body. This is a very flattering and original dress, that is still chic enough for work. I would pair it with an elegant cardigan or straight blazer for a more conservative look or for impromptu meetings in the office.

Seen a great, work-appropriate fashion piece you’d like to recommend? Please email us at corporate@thecorporatesister.com!

The Corporate Sister.

Big Fish in Small Pond or Small Fish in Big Pond: What Works for Women in Corporate?

Ursula Burns, Xerox CEO

Ursula Burns, Xerox CEO

When I look at corporate sisters across the corporate sphere, I can’t help but notice that they appear to fall into two distinct categories: either they are at the top of the corporate game in small professional ponds where they are one of the very few double minorities at the top, or they are lost somewhere in corporate shuffle and bustle trying to find their way up the corporate ladder. In other words, we have the big fish in very small corporate ponds in terms of diversity of opportunity, and the smaller fish in the gigantic corporate pond. And of course, it goes without saying that even as both categories are still corporate double minorities, the big fish are even more a scarce species to come across…

Looking at the corporate sisters at the top of their game, and how they’ve positioned themselves as big fish in the infinitely small pond of corporate diversity, we note that they have a few things in common, a few important things that can help the rest of us position ourselves at the top of our corporate game as well:

  • They transcend their circumstances: I was humbled and inspired by listening to Xerox CEO Ursula Burns speak about her humber beginnings, and boldly declare that basically our circumstances should not keep up from being our best. As corporate sisters and minorities, our challenges are different, and many a times harder than our colleagues. Economically, socially and even spiritually, we may come from different places and deal with different types of pressure. Yet in order to rise up and become a big fish in the small pond of corporate diversity, we must transcend these circumstances, whether they be linked to education(or the lack thereof), humble beginnings, or challenging family situations. Success starts from the inside, and many a times, as we fail to surpass our own internal limitations, we fail to realize that we are setting ourselves up for failure from the start.
  • They citeEducation as key: Xerox CEO Ursula Burns excelled in school, and later in college as an Engineer. Senior VP and Director of Marketing for Ariel Investments LLC Mellody Hobson is a Princeton grad. And so many others…It really starts with educating yourself! Whether your education is a formal or an informal one, to stand out in the corporate world, we must come armed with the right ammunitions. And the best of these is a strong, solid educational foundation…
  • They talk about opportunity more than they mention race: Yes, succeeding as a double minority in the corporate world is a feat in itself. Gender and race-based stereotypes do unfortunately exist, and are more prevalent than they should be in many a setting. Yet, it is less about how others perceive us, as to how we perceive ourselves, and allow others’ perception to affect who we are. When I look up at some of the corporate sisters who are my role models, I see them making strides by taking risks and turning opportunities into achievements. I hear them speaking about their goals and objectives. When they speak about race, gender, and others obstacles on the path to women’s corporate success, it’s in terms of improvement and the creation of additional opportunities for women. And it;s just what we should be after, the opportunities to improve, to better position ourselves, not in spite of our limitations and obstacles, but precisely because of them…

In your opinion, what works for corporate sisters? How can we rise up to become big fish in the small pond of corporate diversity?

The Corporate Sister.

Coffee Chat: Do You Get the “Avoiding Eye” At Work?

avoiding eye contact at work

avoiding eye contact at work

I don’t know about you, but I have been fortunate enough to have a pretty colorful career so far. And by colorful…I mean just that, colorful!
Ever since I was a fresh out-of-college Staff in Public Accounting, I’ve experienced what I call the “avoiding eye”. The “avoiding eye” syndrome affects many people in the corporate space, mostly males in management position, who have the uncanny ability to speak to you while entirely avoiding looking at you. How that is even possible is beyond me, and for all its uncanny character, this is one of the most consistently displayed behavior I and many a corporate sister, have experienced in the corporate world.
From the manager who will blatantly answer your question while looking at the staff reporting to you, to the colleagues who will address your request while furtively catching glimpses of your right shoulder, the “avoiding eye” is so prevalent in the corporate space, especially as directed to corporate sisters, it’s not even funny (although it can definitely be at times).
As a corporate sister and an under-represented minority at work, I have felt the disrespectful sting of it time and time again. While it infuriated me as a young, ambitious staff years ago, today it fuels my ambitions and prompts me to share mine and others’ stories.

Have you ever experienced the “avoiding eye” at work? How have you dealt with/responded to it?

Please share your stories (we need to share our stories)…

The Corporate Sister

The Corporate Sister

Lunch Break: Flared Trench

Flared Trench - $225 - Banannarepublic.com

Flared Trench – $225 – Banannarepublic.com

For our lunch break today, we’ve been saying for a while that spring is on our minds, even though it’s not in the air just yet…And although we are preparing for yet another snow storm this week, we at The Corporate Sister are calling in the Spring gods!

That’s why our pick today is this twist on the classic trench coat from Banana Republic! This flared trench is just what will brighten your fashionably rainy spring days. The iconic trench coat gets a fresh update with a flared hem, a point collar and epaulettes. I love the slight touch of elegance and originality that the flared hem brings to this classic wardrobe staple. This coat is just perfect, and worth the $225 price tag…

Seen a great, work-appropriate fashion piece you’d like to share? Please email us at corporate@thecorporatesister.com!