In this episode, I discuss ditching traditional career goals and instead embracing your own career vision by audting your career in the past 12 months. I discuss 10 steps to start with at the beginning of 2025 to audit your career.
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You know that sumthin’ sumthin’ about Christmas and the year-end holidays that just makes you lose a bit (or a lot) of your financial mind and neglect your money a bit (or a lot)? That feeling that you don’t need to check your bank account or credit card statement until after the New year because… YOLO? And then the New year rolls around, you’re not exactly sure where you stand financially and you’re setting new money goals with no baseline to start from. I’ve been there…This is why a smart money move to make as a working woman and mom is to audit your past year’s finances before even considering setting new financial goals for the New Year.
Now more than ever, women’s finances are taking center stage. As revealed by a 2020 McKinsey and Company report, women are to be the primary wealth holders in the U.S. by 2030. According to this Lending Treeanalysis, single women surpass singe men in home ownership. Women now run more than 10% of all Fortune 500 companies. This potential wealth transfer will cause American women to control much of baby boomers’ $30 trillion in assets. Needless to say, now is not the time to neglect your finances or mishandle your money.
If you are considering smart money moves to make as the New Year rolls around, here are a few financial boxes to check:
1. Do Your Financial Year-End Audit:
Reviewing your finances is one of the first steps to building a healthy financial house. From revisiting your budget to checking your holiday spending, taking some time to strategically go over your financial situation:
Budget check: Check your budget for the past 12 months to better understand your spending patterns. This will allow you to adjust your budget for the new year as needed.
Emergency fund check: Do you have 3 to 6 months of savings that could be applied to emergencies such as job losses or medical crisis? If not, reconsider your savings patterns and adjust your goals for the new year.
Debt check: Where is your debt standing at the moment? Have you been making a dent in it, or has it been increasing? Itemize your debt, see how much progress you’ve been making in the past year, and what you have left to tackle in the next few years.
Benefits check: What is the current status of your retirement, health or insurance benefits? Have you been contributing enough to grow these sustainably? Are you taking advantage of matches offered by your employer if any? If not, can you pivot next year? Can you use any remaining funds in your Flexible Spending Accounts (FSAs) prior to them expiring? Are there other unused work benefits such as reimbursement programs or stipends you can still take care of?
Holiday spending: This one may hurt a bit. It’s easy to get off track with holiday spending, hence the need to review it at year-end. Where did you get off budget? Did you even have a budget to begin with? What could you have done differently? Are there any discounts or cash back opportunities you can still use for last-minute purchases or returns?
2. Evaluate your investments and retirement accounts:
Evaluating your investments and retirement accounts allows you to ensure your money is not only growing well, but is being used optimally over time. This is where reviewing your retirement, investments and kids’ college savings plans can make a world of difference.
Retirement Contributions: Have you contributed enough to your IRA or 401(k) to optimize your tax benefits and maximize employer matches?
Investments: Where does your investment portfolio stand? Does it align with your financial goals and the amount of risk you’re willing to tolerate? If not, how can you modify your approach going forward? Is your money invested in high-yield savings accounts or just sitting in a zero yield account?
College savings plan: As a working mom, have you set you set up and contributed to a 529 plan for your children’s education? If so, have you been able to take advantage of state tax benefits?
3. Plan for the upcoming tax season:
Taxes are not going anywhere, so you might as well plan early for them. Much of the burden of leveraging tax season is spending the necessary time planning for it before it is time to file. If anything, it may just be one of the smartest one money moves you can do as a year closes and another one opens. Here are some steps to do so:
Tax deductions and credits: What are potential tax deductions and credits you can take advantage of in the upcoming tax season? These could be childcare expenses, medical costs, or student loan interest. As a working parent, can you identify tax credits such as the Child Tax Credit that you can also leverage in your taxes.
Charitable donations: Now is the time to make last-minute charitable giving your go-to in order to increase your tax deductions. This will also help you declutter and streamline your belongings or finances before the year closes.
Tax documentation: Rather than waiting until the last minute, year-end is one of the best times to gather your tax documentation. This may include purchase receipts, W-2s, and other tax documents to prepare for tax season and even file early.
4. Set your financial goals for the upcoming decade, not just year:
Reviewing your finances is one thing, moving forward is another. Setting measurable, specific goals for the future is a non-negotiable as you close one year and stepping into another. When it comes to your money, planning for the future is not just limited to the next year. Instead, painting a wider, more long-term financial picture can help you progress more effectively towards establishing a long-term legacy and not just meeting short-term objectives. So how about planning for the next decade and not just the next year? Here are some tips to do so:
Financial goals: What are your financial goals going forward (e.g., paying off debt, increasing retirement contributions, ? Have you done your estate planning? If so, is it in need of reviewing? What is your wealth plan for the next year, five years, decade?
Insurance Policies: Do you have adequate health, disability and life insurance coverage? Is it time to re-evaluate these for your current and future financial standing?
Estate Planning: Are your wills and beneficiaries already set, especially as a working mom? If not, can it be part of your financial goals for the coming year? If they’re already set up, do they need updating?
Financial Check-in: Plan to meet with a financial specialist or advisor to review your financial goals and strategy in the next year.
Plan to involve your family and kids in the process: Teach financial habits to your family and kids. Set up or review their existing savings accounts. Encourage your children to donate or contribute to charitable giving.
Yes, the transition from one year to another is not the easiest time to set your finances in forward motion. However, there is never a good time to do what is best and most challenging for our current and future financial well-being. Using this transition time to take control of your finances is not only one of the smartest money moves you can make. It may just be the most important thing you do to change your financial picture for decades to come.
I remember being in mind-boggling traffic the day before Christmas, with still quite a few gifts left to get on my list, exhausted as could be. The year before, I had promised myself not to get to this point of exhaustion and overwhelm again during the holidays. Yet here I was, mentally calculating how to magically fit in the rest of my Christmas shopping, a quickie shower, and the Christmas service at church, not to mention wrapping the rest of the gifts before the clock struck midnight. Can you relate?
If you’ve ever been in my shoes, you know year-end is a notoriously busy time for working moms. Between holiday preparations, year-end work deadlines, and childcare challenges, most working mothers are exhausted around the holidays. According to a 2006 study by the American Psychological Association (APA), the holidays have a negative impact on women, many of whom are largely responsible for year-end celebrations. A 2024 TODAY survey confirms mothers bear the brunt of holiday preparations 97% of the time. Hence the holiday mental load experienced by so many working mothers…
This is also why year-end is one of the most opportune times to reflect on ways to lessen this mental load and avoid burnout. If like myself, you’ve experienced exhaustion and overwhelm during the last weeks of the year, you may have taken it as a wake-up call. I know I surely have…
Here are the three principles I’ve landed on as part of my year-end reflection as a working mom:
More than at any other time during the year, the flurry of to-do’s, events, commitments and obligations to attend to during the holidays requires prioritizing. What is most important? What can be delegated, postponed or eliminated? These are a few of the questions that must become pivotal in any working mom’s life to avoid constant chaos and make sanity a priority.
Less is More!
If there ever were a motto to modern motherhood, it would be: “less is more”. As a recovering perfectionist, I’ve learned over time that the only medal there is for trying to do all the things as a working mom is that of exhaustion and overwhelm. And there is no better time than the holidays to realize this harsh reality.
For me, year-end is the perfect time to reflect on and practice streamlining my to-do list as a working mom. From building systems to using the power of automation, and lessening my commitments, finding ways to reduce the load as a working mom is an important part of my year-end reflection and planning.
Set clear boundaries!
Last but certainly not least, year-end holidays are a harsh reminder of the power of boundaries (or the lack thereof). During a season where demands, commitments and deadlines rear their demanding heads at every corner, boundaries are essential. As a working mom who’s struggled with setting boundaries, especially during the holidays, I know the dear price to pay for a boundary-less life.
An important part of my year-end reflection focuses on setting up better boundaries with each passing year. From limiting my year-end engagements, to communicating personal and professional boundaries more effectively at work, giving myself some margin during the holidays has become a non-negotiable. In turn, this allows me to further reflect on and plan stronger boundaries in all areas of my personal and professional life.
Over the years, applying these principles has radically transformed the way I approach the holidays and plan for the new year. Although I still have ways to go, I’ve gotten better at prioritizing what really matters, streamlining the insane amount of year-end commitments and deadlines, and setting stronger personal and professional boundaries. In turn, this has allowed me to reclaim my time, and go from constantly exhausted to empowered to thrive instead of just surviving the various seasons of my life and career.
I hope this year-end is also a fresh opportunity for you to reflect on being less of an exhausted working mom, and more of an empowered, and rested, mother.
How are you going from exhausted to empowered in the New Year?
I remember it like it was yesterday. I had just left a well-paying job with benefits, with no backup plan other than following my purpose. With two young children, a mortgage and bills shared with my husband, I took the most dangerous leap of faith I could have ever imagined. For the career-conscious, the ambitious, the money-conscious accountant I was, it was so out of character…And it was, well, so ungrateful of me…
How could I be so ungrateful as to leave behind everything I ought to have been thankful for? How could I walk away from a decent job when so many were in need of one? These questions kept swirling in my mind, as I contemplated my decision to walk away and chart a different path for my career and life…Although I was certainly grateful for the many privileges afforded me as a young, educated working woman and mom, there was something else lurking beneath the surface…Something more, something purposeful, that I could not quite yet put my finger on, or even verbalize at the time. It was an itch I had to scratch, a call that forced me to step into the unknown, at the risk of looking ungrateful…Yet I kept feeling like aspiring to something different than what I had was lacking in gratitude…
As women and moms, we’re socialized to be grateful. To show endless gratitude for all we’re privileged to have, from a husband, to children, a career or financial stability. After all, gratitude does have its benefits, fromimproving our health, to gaining a psychological edge in life, building stronger relationships, and increasing productivity and career success. Giving thanks can literally save our lives and propel us forward…For women, it’s even been linked to developing a more body-positive image. However, it can also turn into a golden prison weaponized and collectively weaponized against women…
This golden prison is also known as the “gratitude trap”. It’s this endless pit of constantly feeling like we have to be so grateful for everything that in turn we end up shrinking and apologizing for taking space. From the home to the office, we shrink in the name of misplaced, excessive gratitude, making ourselves small enough to be palatable, to accommodate others and make up for the space we ought to proudly fill. At work, we feel like we should be so grateful for having a job, for every promotion, every hard-earned success. At home, we ought to feel so much gratitude for the husband, the kids, the home, that we accept to crumble under the mountain of work that falls on our shoulders and the struggle to juggle it all. In the name of gratitude, we may continuously fade in the background, erase ourselves, over-accommodate others while often neglecting ourselves and apologizing for our very existence.
How many times do we see women at work saying sorry, in meetings, over email and in personal interactions? How many times do we feel like we have to over-compensate for our successes by shrinking and bending over backwards for others? How many times do we hear when we dare to utter a single complaint, that we have much to be grateful for? And how many times are we reminded by society that we’ve come a long way, and should be grateful for it?
This is the diminishing side of gratitude, the reductive, the shrinking, the shame-filled side, that we don’t talk about enough. This is the other edge, the sharp, cutting edge of an otherwise beneficial practice that we too often silence, for fear of staining its immaculate perception. Yet, it is a side we need to bring out in the light, if we are to rid ourselves of the shame and guilt of desiring more or wanting something different.
So what are we to do to keep from getting swallowed by the “gratitude trap” as working women and moms? Do we ditch gratitude altogether? Do we continue to allow ourselves to be so thankful that we keep shrinking? After too many years of misunderstanding and misusing gratitude, I’ve come to a few guiding principles as a working woman and mom:
From fixed to growth mindset: Changing our mindset about gratitude!
Like so many, I used to think being grateful also meant refraining from wanting something different or aspiring to better or more. This was a reductive mindset about gratitude, akin to the fixed mindset. Excessive gratitude would then put a ceiling on my abilities, achievements and progress. Instead, I now choose to think of gratitude in a more expansive way. Because I’m grateful for how far I’ve come, and for every ounce of goodness and privilege in my life, I give myself permission to be grateful in advance for future blessings. I choose to think of gratitude as a multiplier, rather than as a ceiling. This is the growth mindset applied to gratitude.
Using gratitude as a fuel
Whenever I think of all I’m grateful for, I’m reminded of how far I’ve come and the many obstacles I’ve been fortunate to overcome, the people in my life and on my path, and the spaces, situations and circumstances that have brought me to this point.
Choosing to see gratitude as a sign of progress and evolution also allows me to use it as fuel for future progress.
Documenting our gratitude journey and using it to motivate others
Gratitude is best when shared with others. Not only can it benefit us then, but it can also benefit others, motivating them to go after their own purpose and dreams. By freeing others to see what is possible through gratitude, we also free ourselves from the trap of limiting gratitude.
So, yes, even as I am deeply grateful to even be writing these words, it’s no longer out of a sense of gratitude that traps and limits me. As you tap into your own sense of gratitude, I hope you use it to fuel yourself, motivate others and transcend any undue limit every imposed on you.
If summer is also your time to catch up on your fiction books, then you’re certainly not alone. Like many, it’s also my time to unwind and catch up on my fiction reading. There’s something about the summer months that just make you look forward to evading in a nice fiction book…
Here are some of summer fiction books that I highly recommend:
I thoroughly enjoyed Seven Days in June by Tia Williams. If you’re looking for a light, yet captivating summer read, you may want to give Seven Days in June a try. The story of Brooklynite single mom and best-selling erotica writer Eva Mercy, and Shane Hall, a reclusive mysterious and award-winning author, is one that will take you back to your romance days.
When they meet unexpectedly at a literary event, their past comes back to the surface, as they embark on a seven-day adventure back to each other in June.
With a romantic backdrop, Seven Days in June explores the intricacies of Black life and what it means to be a modern Black mom.
This fascinating love story binds three people into a captivating tale weaved around the effects of injustice in contemporary American life. When newlyweds Celestial and Roy’s future is ripped apart by an unfortunate criminal sentence, their lives take a turn for the unexpected. As Roy spends time in prison for a crime he didn’t commit, Celestial falls into the arms of her childhood friend Andre.
With the backdrop of the American justice system’s racially biased reality, An American Marriage offers an unique perspective on life and love, pain and hope, present and future.
A Spell of Good Things is not just a book, it is an exploration of the societal fissures between different classes, genders and politics in Nigeria. The story unfolds around Eniola, a young man from a family impoverished due government changes causing his father to lose his teaching job; and Wuraola, a young doctor from a well-to-do family stuck between an abusive fiancé, a demanding career, and society’s judgmental gaze on her as an unmarried woman in her 30’s. As Eniola loses his bid to attend university and gain an education, he becomes entangled in a web of mischievous political intimidation that ends up directly affecting Wuraola’s family. In the meantime, Wuraola embarks on a journey of self-discovery, and self-delivery, to disentangle herself from the bondage of family, romantic and societal abuse.
It’s in this context that Eniola and Wuraola’s lives become intertwined, weaving the tapestry of all the ways in which our human lives are inextricably bound regardless of class, gender or personal aspirations.
And the mountains echoed was on my reading list for quite a long time, before I finally picked it up this summer. Nestled in the mountains of Afghanistan, the story builds up around a brother and sister whose seemingly unbreakable bond gets torn apart by the difficult choice of their family to pry them apart. From this heart-wrenching break, a saga ensues, taking the reader across continents, from Kabul to Paris, San Francisco and the Greek islands.
This book is an absolute gem of human depth, weaving deep wisdom, insight and compassion into the fabric of love, family and history. A must-read!
These exceptional books had me traveling all throughout the world and the fabric of humanity this summer. They certainly figure on my list of all-time book recommendations.
Now your turn, as we close this summer, what books made your summer reading list? Email us at corporate@the corporatesister.com and share…
