by Solange Lopes | Sep 30, 2016 | Career
This is our weekly career and lifestyle news update, where we round up exciting news of the last week and we let you have it…ahem, news-wise that is…
Think of it as your career gossiping section on steroids…
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- In awesome news this week, Forbes reports that Mindy Kaling’s cooking up a new workplace comedy starring Emma Thompson as a late night talk show host, and I’m jumping inside;
- Yesterday was National Coffee Day (although for some of us everyday’s National Coffee Day), and Black Enterprise calls to celebrate brands that support minority franchise owners with a cup of java;
- Is it better to be naughty or nice at work? Read Ellevate Network’s take on it;
- Are you in healthcare? Glassdoor lists 7 jobs for healthcare workers;
- Santander UK Chairman says companies can attract more women by changing the language in ads. Would you agree?
- Ellevate Network tips us off with 5 vital behaviors to learn when you become a leader;
- Love working from home? The Evil HR Lady lists 10 great telecommuting jobs;
- Shy people alert! Business Insider suggest 19 almost-perfect jobs for shy individuals;
- No plans for the week-end? Inc. suggests you could learn these 9 surprising ways to build emotional intelligence;
- In need of fashion and beauty tips? These celebrity stylists offer fashion and beauty tips for working women;
- Need to make over your wardrobe on a budget? WhoWhatWear has great tips.
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 28, 2016 | Career
Wear to Work: Le Suit One-Button Pantsuit – Photo credit: shopstyle.com
Our “Wear toWork” feature presents a piece of workwear, along with great alternatives, for stylish corporate sisters.
I haven’t featured a pantsuit in a while, and as Fall is officially back, it’s a great time to start suiting up. My pick this week is this fabulous LeSuit one-button pantsuit, that you can wear from the office to the after-hours in a cinch! Loving the flattering look of the shawl collar on this suit’s jacket, as well as the classic one-button front closure.
The straight-leg and mid-rise pants are slimming and comfortable, while the long-sleeves and flap pockets make for a chic overall look. This pantsuit is $200 at Macy’s, and is available in sizes 4 through 18.
Plus-Sizes
This suit is available in plus sizes, from 14W to 24W, also at Macy’s. I also like this three-piece texture-weave pantsuit, also from LeSuit, is a great alternative for larger sizes, and runs from sizes 14W to 24W.
Petites
In Petite sizes, I fell head over heels over this olive green Tahari one-button suit. I would also gladly sport this salt and pepper petite herringbone number, also from the Tahari collection at Macys.
Which suit is your favorite?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 28, 2016 | Career
“Ok, I know I’m lucky to have a job, but I want my dream job, my calling. How do I know I’m not just wasting my life away?”
This was a line I stole from one of my latest conversations with my younger cousin, the last time she was in town visiting. Jo is your typical millennial, highly educated, highly opinionated, and highly adamant about living life to its fullest.
How many times have you said this to yourself? Or heard a girlfriend lament over “slaving at this 9-to-5 that was never her calling anyways?” Or even rolled your eyes at yet another “corporate prisoner” about leaving their job and pursue their calling (right before the electric, gas and cable bills all come due at exactly the same time)?
This job vs. calling battle has been raging in most professionals’ minds forever. Now more than ever, especially among millennials, corporate sisters and brothers are stuck between the safe rock of their consuming 9-to-5 and the hard place of their dreams. More than ever, they ask themselves if they should keep the job, or go for the dream…Which one will prevail? Or should the question be, which one do you really want?
What you really want and need is also the foundation of your happiness in life. The problem comes with knowing what THAT really is. Is it the safety and security of a predictable paycheck, or the adventure and thrill of entrepreneurship? Is it a bit or both, or maybe winning the Powerball and moving to Bali (ok, I digress again…)? Whatever THAT is, knowing it, but really knowing it, in the sense of applying it to your life (the real one, not the one you’re imagining as you sing happy tunes under the shower), may just the be the ultimate test…
How do you even know what your calling is? Is it just a gut feeling inside? Something that pulls you to it and doesn’t let you go until you’ve actually fulfilled it?
In his column entitled A Wall Street Job Can’t Match A Calling, writer Michael Lewis draws the difference between job and a calling. According to him, a calling is “an activity you find so compelling that you wind up organizing your entire self around it — often to the detriment of your life outside of it.“He also writes that a job “will never satisfy you all by itself, but it will afford you security and the chance to pursue an exciting and fulfilling life outside of your work“.
So despite all the “job hating” and lamentations over earning a paycheck vs. pursuing your calling, why are so few of us really working in our calling (hence the lamentations and “job hating” in the first place)? What makes the calling appear so untouchable that we must fall back on the comfort of the job?
Well, bills have to be paid, shoes bought, and (some shred) of sanity saved…which requires a paycheck, which the calling doesn’t always provide. Just ask the many struggling entrepreneurs out there…
And it’s not like you can pull the “Burger King” card and “have it your way” either…You can’t exactly have both the job and the calling at the same time. While the job you may pick seemingly allows for more security and financial means to pursue what you love outside of work, it hardly ever is a calling. Because you don’t pick the calling, the calling picks you, wraps itself around you, and shows you parts of yourself you didn’t even know existed. Except the calling doesn’t work on regular hours and some sense of work/life balance. It takes over your life and requires undying commitment from you.
If you’re sighing deeply as you read this, here’s something that may bring you relief (or send you looking for more chocolate): your seemingly safe job is not really safe (ask anyone who’s been laid off before), and neither is your calling. The only safety you can muster in this life lies right next to your heart: it’s what you have inside of you, what makes you who you truly are.
So, if like so many professionals out there driving to work dreaming about sitting on Oprah’s couch and talking about achieving their dreams, you’re also stuck between the cubicle and the dream, here are a few questions to ask yourself:
- What do you think is your calling, and if it were to happen today, would it really make you happy?
- Are you committed to do the extra work and provide the extra commitment required to pursue your calling?
- Or would you rather have a great career which allows you to live an exciting life outside of work?
- Do you have, or will you find, the appropriate support system to pursue either?
And the most important question of all, that we often forget as we get shuffled left and right by the wind of our obligations and deferred dreams:
What makes you, or would make you, truly happiest?
Whatever it is, if it’s not part of your life now, you may want to consider ways to get it…
Do you have a job but would rather work on your calling?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 25, 2016 | Career, Find Your Purpose
For a few weeks after I lost my sister, I lost my voice. Literally. I couldn’t speak, or write, or even think clearly for a while. Something inside of me went numb for some time, then rose in uncontrollable anger, then later subsided in the depths of my soul, (still) looking for peace and closure of some kind. If you’ve grieved for someone you’ve lost, physically or spiritually, you may be nodding as you’re reading…
In the wake of the recent shootings, I was reminded yet again what it feels like to deal with something you don’t understand, and grieve for a pain you can’t exactly put a qualifier on. And so are most of us witnessing, from close or far, the traumatic events of the past few months…
We may not personally know the victims or all of those involved. Yet our human voice intimately recognizes them, as it alternately goes numb, rises in anger, drops in sadness, and searches around for peace, understanding and closure…And very often, we’re not sure what to do with that voice. Not sure whether we should let it roam free, expressing itself as it feels when it feels it? Or whether to restrain it, using logic, reason and other grown-up mental boxes, only letting out what is politically correct enough? Or even if we should park it somewhere for a while, until we figure out what to do with all our feelings and emotions?
Every time humanity is violated, our human voices are awakened from their torpor, warning us of a need to restore peace and order in the fabric of life. We have an opportunity to use it to grieve, channel it to regain our power and inspire others. But we also can struggle with it, not quite sure how to push aside the walls of convenience and political correctness…
After my sister passed, I didn’t know what to do with my voice. I couldn’t be angry forever, or just choose to ignore the pain. Both alternatives certainly lessened the pain, but they also left me empty, unfulfilled and endlessly reaching for carbs. I could use it instead, but how? And what for? Would it even be worth it? It wouldn’t bring her back, or change the stark reality of things. What was the point?
I believe grief is not just a healing process, it’s also a transformative one. We often grieve without even realizing it, as we watch terrible news online, witness tragedy around us, or fill our time with busy work to avoid the hard stuff. What we don’t often do, is grab that grief by its ugly, slippery black collar, shake it, and let all the real good stuff come out of it through our voice.
Real good stuff that can help us not just regain our power, but multiply the positive effects of our voices as citizens, sisters, brothers, moms, dads, uncles, aunts, human beings:
Use Your Platform
We all have a platform. All.of.us. Whether it’s within our families, our circle of friends, at work, at church, on the subway…Wherever we may find ourselves at any moment can serve as a platform. One where we can live, embody and speak our truth, while still respecting the boundaries of others’ freedom and truth…
That’s what Issa Rae, the creator of the web series The Misadventures of an Awkward Black Girl and upcoming HBO comedy Insecure, did when she set a scholarship fund for 37-year old black man fatally shot by police, Alton Sterling. It’s also what Beyonce did when challenging fans to lobby politicians to change the current gun laws.
You may not have Beyonce or Issa Rae’s platform of millions of fans and followers. Yet, wherever you may be, you have a platform in which you can use your voice for good. Whether it’s starting a fund, or spreading understanding instead of hatred, or writing a blog post, you can effect change wherever you are.
Strategically direct your voice
When we think of using our voices, we may think of protesting or organizing movements. Which is all good and well, when done respectfully and in peace. But real power, real influence, is effected when we can not just use our voices, but control HOW we use them.
Having kids has taught me that authority and power doesn’t come from forcefully using my voice and exerting my influence. Power comes from strategically directing your voice. By owning your message and choosing the most effective, peaceful, high-impact medium to channel it. Remember Diamond Reynolds, the girlfriend of Philando Castile? Her calm and politeness had more effect than any protest in exposing an excruciatingly difficult situation.
For some of us, it’s through our art. For others, it’s through our material resources. For all of us, it’s first and foremost in how we choose to live our lives and embody the freedom and love that binds us all, regardless of race, gender, nationality and creed.
Face the Conflict
Let’s be real…Many of us would rather avoid difficult conversations, especially when they revolve around race, religion or politics. We’d rather turn a blind eye and deaf ear, if only not to deal with our own grief. Yet what we may not realize is that it also robs us of our power. There’s something inside you that gets smaller every time you let go of an opportunity to use your voice for good.
In her piece entitled “The Conversation We Must Have With Our White Children”, Courtney Martin deals with difficult issues most wouldn’t dare addressing.
Facing the conflict isn’t about resorting to violence or letting anger take over. It’s about being willing to have the difficult, painful conversations so many of us avoid. It’s about taking the curtain down, and telling the truth about how we feel, without blame or condemnation. It’s saying “This hurts, and it has to change”.
How will you be using your voice to regain your power and effect change in the wake of the recent shootings?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 23, 2016 | Career
This is our weekly career and lifestyle news update, where we round up exciting news of the last week and we let you have it…ahem, news-wise that is…
Think of it as your career gossiping section on steroids…
And while you’re at it, follow us on Facebook, Twitter,IG, and Pinterest!
Here we go…
- Newsflash! I stayed up for the Emmys this year, and boy was it worth it, women ruled this year! And I give you my best highlights in this post;
- In the news this week, Essence reports a judge rules banning dreadlocks at work is not discrimination. Your thoughts?
- Online application rejected again? Undercover Recruiter says it’s time to create your website;
- Entrepreneurs everywhere beware? Want to grow your business? Ellevate advises you start with personal development;
- Want to keep productive all day long? Business Insider credits this one morning routine for keeping you grinding all day long;
- Kudos to single moms everywhere? This Ellevate Network post looks at the real price of single motherhood;
- Sick and tired of sitting all day at work? Fast Company confirms you can now bike at your desk (yes, really);
- Want to work in media? Black Enterprise has some great tips;
- Do you know the best way to stop emotional eating? Penelope Trunk argues it’s emotional working (and I tend to agree);
- Naughty or nice? What do you think really works at work? Ellevate Network has an interesting perspective;
- Last but not least, do you think fashion’s embrace of the hijab is re-appropriating Muslim women? Check out Refinery29’s take here.
To Your Success,
Solange.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 22, 2016 | Career
So the other day my little cousin stopped by after getting off from one of her many jobs. Like many college students, Ina juggles a full class load, plus a couple of side jobs here and there. As I watched her quickly change from her scrubs to her Walgreens uniform, and listened to her talk about how crazy busy her days are, I was taken back to my time as a student when I was trying to keep up with school work, regular work and the never-ending work of figuring myself out….No wonder Rihanna’s tune “Work, work, work” rings a bell or two…Anyhow…
“How do you keep up, Ina, you’re way too busy!”, I told her, as she looked at me smiling.
“It’s actually fun, I bring a different side of me to each job, and I’m never bored. Kinda like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing..”
Kinda like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, without the whole good and evil side that is…but with the perks of exploring her different talents, interests and different facets of her personality at…work! Or the freedom of bouncing back from whatever life brings at you, from moves across the country to ugly break-ups…How many of us can say we get to switch it up like this from the comfort of our cute cubicles?
What if you had the opportunity to get “unstuck” from a rigid, seemingly one-way career and instead be able to explore and experience your various interests in your career? What if the same career that tends to feel so static at times could offer you the opportunity to expand your horizons, express your many talents and cater to your many sides? What if you could re-invent yourself all throughout your career?
Ok, I hear you, we live in the real world here…Bills have to get paid, shoes bought, and (some shred) of sanity saved…When the mortgage’s due, ain’t no one exactly thinking about re-inventing anything else but your (slightly depleted) bank account, right..Yet, we also spend the majority of our lives at work; and the only thing worse than the thought of not being able to be all we can be for eight (or more) hours a day is never having dessert again…And who wants that?
Re-inventing your career is not just about deciding to quit your boring Big Corporate job to hike up the Himalayas. Or giving your notice to start your business, pursue your passion, or be a stay-at-home parent for a while. It’s not always about the big stuff. It can just be that you fell in love, fell out of love, got a divorce, or just found out you have six months to live. Or that you walking into work makes you want to hide under the sheet covers, or that everyone at your job just flat out hates you. I mean, life happens…
Whatever life throws at you or you get up and decide to do, here are three stages to doing your very own “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” thing at work, and re-invent your career in a way that ‘s best suited to you:
Stop and look around.
No, really, take a good hard look at yourself and where you stand in life and in your career. Is this where you expected to be at this stage of your life and career? Are you fulfilled and satisfied, or do grow restless by the day? Do you feel like there are still things you haven’t gotten the opportunity to accomplish? Where are you now, and where do you want to go?
The first step to a career, and by extension, life re-invention starts within. It starts with all those questions you really don’t want to answer, but have to face as some point or another. Those are the “tough” questions that let you know whether it’s time to do something, and change the status quo, or just ride the fantastic wave of success and fulfillment you’re on (in which case you can skip this post and go back to texting with Oprah).
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
After the first introspective stage where you stopped and took a serious look at where you stand, ask yourself this one question: “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” Believe me, the first time you utter the words, you’ll start imagining all kinds of executive meetings with Beyonce, and downing as much fried ice cream as your stomach can humanely muster…
No, but seriously, what are those things you’ve dreamt of doing in your career that you’ve never exactly had the guts to go for? For some, it could be asking for a promotion, raise or just telling your boss what you really think (let’s think about this last one some more, please). For others, it could be finally starting to write that book, or get going on that side hustle.
While it can be tempting to make grand projects as you answer this question, try and be realistic. The biggest mistake we make when re-inventing our careers is going too fast, too far away from their experience. It’s OK to go for an 180-degree change, but make sure you’re extra-committed and that you’re making gradual progress.
Sharing is caring!
Especially when trying to re-invent your career…Keeping your journey through career re-invention to yourself can hurt you more than it can benefit you. It can feel pretty lonely to start over, or branch out into something different, or go through a challenging life period with minimal support. If you have connections into the new field or business you may be going into, don’t hesitate to reach out and ask for advice or even mentorship.
It’s also a great idea to test-drive your concepts and projects before launching into a new venture or career. Having different perspectives and opinions can help you clarify things in your head, and even come up with better ideas. You can even develop your own “re-invention narrative”, a quick synopsis you can use to explain why you’re making a career change.
However, be careful who and when you talk to other people. Don’t run the risk of looking flaky by sharing your plans if you’re not quite ready to commit . And if you can’t exactly trust the office’s Chatty Cathy, you can just chat about the latest Nordstrom sales…
Have you re-invented yourself in your career? How did you go about it?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Sep 21, 2016 | Career
Photo credit: shopstyle.com
Our “Wear toWork” feature presents a piece of workwear, along with great alternatives, for stylish corporate sisters.
For those of you who ran to The Limited after the announcement of their collaboration with actress Eva Longoria, you’re not alone! I had to gasp for air as I read the announcement myself, and absolutely have to feature some pieces from their “Work to Wine” collection! Besides, anything involving wine and high fashion has me signing up pronto…
Today’s pick is this gorgeous power knit color blocked dress, perfect for the weird transitioning period between Summer and Fall. Loving the glamorous color block detail on this flawlessly fitting dress, and the nice contrast between the tan and blue print! Just think of it as a mix between your favorite LBD and your best pair of jeans…Bonus point: it’s on sale for $111.96!
Petites
While there are not that many Petite options available online from the Eva Longoria “Wine to Work” collection, there were a couple which made me click closer. Like this faux-leather power ponte dress, perfect for Fall. Or this Eva Longoria texture power ponte in beautiful white.
Plus-Sizes
The Eva Longoria collection for The Limited doesn’t include any plus-size option, unfortunately. However, I looked around and found similar dresses, like this easy midi dress or this sunny color block sheath number, both from Eloquii.
Which one is your fave?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
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