by Solange Lopes | Mar 5, 2014 | Career |
blackloveandmarriage.com
I came upon the term “work spouse” a few years back when I was still a novice in the corporate game. And did it make me smile at the time…
And along my corporate journey, I noticed more and more of these corporate “marriages”. As one of my favorite corporate big sisters puts it, “if I’m going to spend this much time at work, I better have me a work hubby who can bring me lunch!”
Although I’ve never had a work spouse through all my corporate years (or should I say I’ve never really found one), I would tend to agree that a platonic “work marriage” may just take away some of the professional strain many of us are under…as long as we keep it platonic of course?
Do you have a work spouse or know anyone who does? What do you think of these? Chime in…
The Corporate Sister.
The Corporate Sister
by Solange Lopes | Mar 5, 2014 | Career |

madamenoire.com
Women, and women in color in particular, in Corporate America, or the lack thereof, are the reason why many of us thrive. And it’s also the reason why this blog exists. Today, rather than filling the page with words, we invite you to listen to this insightful excerpt from Comcast Newsmakers discussing women in Corporate America, with Alfred Edmonds from Black Enterprise.
by Solange Lopes | Mar 4, 2014 | Career
blackice.co.za
“Stop smiling so much”, “Try to be more stern”, “Be tough”…These are some of the most common pieces of advice I’ve gotten from big corporate sisters over the years.
I’ve always been the smiling, nurturing, borderline people-pleasing type. And apparently naturally and agreeably feminine types like myself are not exactly suited for leadership. Or are we?
The image of the successful, over-acheiving corporate sister is often a conservative, stern one. On Forbes magazines and other leadership publications where women leaders are celebrated as the exception more than the rule, it seems smiles are controlled, postures are unnaturally rigid and speeches are controlled. Not a lick of excess lipstick, or a lick of hair not in its place…Femininity, let alone natural, spontaneous sexiness, are not de rigueur…No wonder Barbie was always more appealing to young girls than the Iron Lady (Bless her soul)…
In the age of female empowerment and women “leaning in”, is femininity seen as a hindrance in the world of corporate leadership? Does being a leader equate to negating the essence of womanhood? Does success mean changing who we are?
The Corporate Sister
by Solange Lopes | Mar 3, 2014 | Career

Skala Dress – $340 – REISS.com
For our lunch break today, we are loving this Skala dress from REISS. I love the pattern on this dress, and the color reminds me of spring (is it Spring yet?). The cap sleeves and crew neck cut also make it an elegant addition to both your work and play wardrobe.
At $340, it’s our splurge of the week …
Pssst… REISS is still having reduced prices on select items, so stop by the website some time this week…
The Corporate Sister.
by Solange Lopes | Mar 3, 2014 | Career |

Lupita Nyongo – independent.co.uk
Happy Monday!
Last night, millions of people across the planet watched Kenyan actress Lupita Nyong’O win the Oscar for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in the epic “12 Years a Slave”. I know I did, and I can’t even begin to explain the feelings of pride and sheer joy that overtook me as I watched this young woman transcend centuries-old race and gender barriers, to claim an honor that has seldom been given to women like her.
She closed her beautiful acceptance speech with this phrase that will forever stay with me: “No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid!”. As we head to work this morning to start a new week, as we struggle as corporate sisters to establish our footing in a corporate world where very few look like us, let’s remember that our dreams of success and achievement are also valid. That we can achieve our best even as the odds seem insurmountable. That with hard work, dedication and sheer genuine commitment to our careers, we can also make it to the top.
We saw it last night, and we need to be getting ready to see it over and over and over again,s tarting with our own selves. It can be done, it has been done, and will be done again, and for that reason, we are to keep on keepin’ on, and keep pushing until we can finally make it…
And if you’re in need of inspiration this morning, please watch Lupita’s Oscar acceptance speech last night, and be reminded that your dreams are valid:
The Corporate Sister.
by Solange Lopes | Feb 26, 2014 | Career |

Vince Camuto ponte knit sheath dress – $118 – nordstrom.com
Four our lunch break today, we are in awe of this Vince Camuto belted print ponte knit sheath dress from Nordstrom. I love the graphic geometric print and the flattering V-neckline (although I would probably wear a black camisole under just to keep things kosher for work). And for a slimmer silhouette (and who doesn’t need a slimmer silhouette, I know I do), the back black panel keeps everything in check and creates the illusion of a smaller waist in proportion to the rest of your body. This is a very flattering and original dress, that is still chic enough for work. I would pair it with an elegant cardigan or straight blazer for a more conservative look or for impromptu meetings in the office.
Seen a great, work-appropriate fashion piece you’d like to recommend? Please email us at corporate@thecorporatesister.com!
The Corporate Sister.
by Solange Lopes | Feb 26, 2014 | Career |

Ursula Burns, Xerox CEO
When I look at corporate sisters across the corporate sphere, I can’t help but notice that they appear to fall into two distinct categories: either they are at the top of the corporate game in small professional ponds where they are one of the very few double minorities at the top, or they are lost somewhere in corporate shuffle and bustle trying to find their way up the corporate ladder. In other words, we have the big fish in very small corporate ponds in terms of diversity of opportunity, and the smaller fish in the gigantic corporate pond. And of course, it goes without saying that even as both categories are still corporate double minorities, the big fish are even more a scarce species to come across…
Looking at the corporate sisters at the top of their game, and how they’ve positioned themselves as big fish in the infinitely small pond of corporate diversity, we note that they have a few things in common, a few important things that can help the rest of us position ourselves at the top of our corporate game as well:
- They transcend their circumstances: I was humbled and inspired by listening to Xerox CEO Ursula Burns speak about her humber beginnings, and boldly declare that basically our circumstances should not keep up from being our best. As corporate sisters and minorities, our challenges are different, and many a times harder than our colleagues. Economically, socially and even spiritually, we may come from different places and deal with different types of pressure. Yet in order to rise up and become a big fish in the small pond of corporate diversity, we must transcend these circumstances, whether they be linked to education(or the lack thereof), humble beginnings, or challenging family situations. Success starts from the inside, and many a times, as we fail to surpass our own internal limitations, we fail to realize that we are setting ourselves up for failure from the start.
- They citeEducation as key: Xerox CEO Ursula Burns excelled in school, and later in college as an Engineer. Senior VP and Director of Marketing for Ariel Investments LLC Mellody Hobson is a Princeton grad. And so many others…It really starts with educating yourself! Whether your education is a formal or an informal one, to stand out in the corporate world, we must come armed with the right ammunitions. And the best of these is a strong, solid educational foundation…
- They talk about opportunity more than they mention race: Yes, succeeding as a double minority in the corporate world is a feat in itself. Gender and race-based stereotypes do unfortunately exist, and are more prevalent than they should be in many a setting. Yet, it is less about how others perceive us, as to how we perceive ourselves, and allow others’ perception to affect who we are. When I look up at some of the corporate sisters who are my role models, I see them making strides by taking risks and turning opportunities into achievements. I hear them speaking about their goals and objectives. When they speak about race, gender, and others obstacles on the path to women’s corporate success, it’s in terms of improvement and the creation of additional opportunities for women. And it;s just what we should be after, the opportunities to improve, to better position ourselves, not in spite of our limitations and obstacles, but precisely because of them…
In your opinion, what works for corporate sisters? How can we rise up to become big fish in the small pond of corporate diversity?
The Corporate Sister.