Lunch Chat: No Christmas Gift for the Boss!

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Photo: dreamstime.com

‘Tis the season for gifting! Whether at work or around family and friends, we tend to want to get a lil’ something something for everyone. However, when it comes to the corporate world, and more specifically to our supervisors and/or managers, we may need to slow our jolly gifting rolls and think twice about it…
While some may argue that deciding for or against buying a gift for the boss depends on the type of relationship you have with her or him, I, on the other hand, would tend to agree with one of my favorite no-nonsense career bloggers Penelope Trunk: Do not buy the boss a gift!. And this for many different reasons…

You don’t want to look like you’re a kiss-you-know-what: especially in corporate team environments, the last thing you want to do is set yourself apart as the kiss-hmmm(you get my drift). If you must offer a gift, try and do it as a group, or limit your spending to a minimal amount, preferrably under $25.

You don’t want to put the boss in an uncomfortable position: you know when someone just is too kind to you and you don’t really want to tell them that their kindness is a bit overwhelming? Well, that may be the kind of situation you might end up putting your boss in, when you step in the door with your elaborately wrapped gift. While he/she may be genuinely appreciative, they also have to consider things like conflicts of interest and general team perception. Besides, shouldn’t the gift giving happen the other way around? Just sayin’….

Last but not least, you can still show your appreciation for the boss…in a different way: a nice handwritten card will do the job, and show your boss your genuine gratitude, without seeming too over-the-top. And if it could be done as discreetly as possible so as not to give everyone the wrong impression, even better…

Will you be buying a gift for your boss?

The Corporate Sister

Lunch Break: Alice + Olivia Oh! So Cute Tutu Coffee Mug

Photo: starbucks.com

Photo: starbucks.com

We were just talking yesterday about the rampant Starbucks coffee addiction among corporate sisters (check out our lunch break post on the Verismo brewer)…just in time to swoon over this Alice + Olivia froufrou tutu(yes, froufrou!) 12 fl. oz. double-wall ceramic travel mug! I mean, how can you just not smile looking at this black-and-white piece of artwork, let alone holding it on your morning coffee run…

It’s $19.95 on the Starbucks website, and while it would make a wonderful last-minute gift for any corporate sister, you may just HAVE to get it for yourself…
Guaranteed to start your morning with a smile!

 

 

 

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Is the Angry Black Woman Stereotype Keeping You From Corporate Success?

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Photo: bing.com

There are many stereotypes and cultural pre-conceived ideas that come with being a sister in the corporate world. Unfortunately, many not as positive as we would wish…One of these, the Angry Black Woman Syndrome as dubbed mostly in the media and popular culture, is unfortunately very much present in the corporate space, albeit seldom spoken about or expressed outright. From speaking to a number of corporate big and little sisters, there almost seems to be an expectation that as minority women in corporate environments, we may have a slight tendency towards somewhat of a lack of self-control or even flat-out anger. That maybe our reactions may not be as predictable, or professional, as would be expected.

This is in part attributable to the portrayal of Black women in most media outlets. Indeed, as we look around, there are so very few images of minority women holding high corporate, or official ranks in the public eye, that the predominantly negative palette tends to take over. Combined with already pre-existing stereotypes and views of minority women in general, and the increasingly small percentage of diversity in visible spheres of influence in society, this turns out to be more damaging in the end than we can ever think. So, faced with this, how do we move past the negative perceptions towards success as corporate sisters? During my years in corporate, and through the advice of many who’ve gone before me, these are some of the recommendations and advice that’s stayed with me over the years and through many a corporate environment….

Separate Yourself from the Stereotype: This has turned out to be more of a mental exercise than anything else. No one is confined to a single stereotype, or idea of who they are, wherever this idea may be coming from. And once we separate ourselves from what others may be thinking of us, and concentrate on our values, work and ethics, we will tend to see less and less of these very stereotypes. And the less we internalize the negative, the more we externalize the authenticity of who we are, and place ourselves in a frame of mind to produce our best results, and in the process, change the very mentalities and perceptions that threaten to plague our success.

Pick Your battles: My mama still tells me to move my tongue around my mouth seven times before speaking…And if anything, this single piece of advice has saved my career many times over. Difficult situations pop up everywhere, especially at work where we have to address them with as much professionalism and integrity as possible. As would also happen anywhere where different people, cultures, and ideas come together, there is bound to be misunderstanding and friction. When under-represented minorities, cultural and social stereotypes add to the mix, it can be even more complicated. And while it may be difficult, it can certainly pay to evaluate the consequences of every interaction, pick the professional battles that are worth it, and steer clear from anything detrimental to our careers and professional advancement…

Document, document, document! In the corporate world, as in most professional environments, the power of the written word is still very much prevalent! A great big corporate sister of mine always told me that ” it’s not real until you write it down!” From work achievements, to conflict resolution in the workplace, documentation is always, ALWAYS, every professional’s best ally.

Are You Pushing through to your corporate success?

 

 

Coffee Run: Starbucks Verismo Brewer

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Photo: demandware.edgesuite.net

Dear Santa, I’ve been a good corporate sister, and you know how much I need my coffee, right?

For all the coffee addicts like myself, and especially for the unconditional Starbucks devotees, you may just have to add some space on your already crowded Christmas list for the Verismo Starbucks coffee maker. Although the phenomenal, homemade Starbucks drinks’ coffee machine, is now over a year old, it is still very much a treat for those of us who just can’t do without our Caramel Macchiatos, or my personal favorite, the White Chocolate Mocha…hmmmm…

From reviews of the Verismo, it appears to be quite user-friendly, and to replicate the taste of store-bought coffee pretty accurately. However, priced at $159 (a reduction from the original $200 when it first came out last year), it is not necessarily a cost saver, as compared to what your regular coffee run would cost you. If you factor in the price of the coffee pods and syrup, your average cost per cup is pretty comparable to the in-store beverage…except, can you really put a price on waking up on a snowy Saturday morning to the smell of your favorite Caramel brulee latte, all in your pajamas, slippers and uncombed hair (ok, please comb your hair)….

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Lunch Break: Online Shopping for the Natural Corporate Sister

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Photo: carolsdaughter.com

Unless you really enjoy the current freezing temperatures outside, you may want to rethink your lunch break walk to the mall today…Well, no mall, no problem! For all the natural corporate sisters out there, and really for anyone who could use some hair, bath and body pampering, Carol’s Daughter is having a great online sale, with 20% off bath and body products, and 30% off haircare products! And to top all of this yummy fabulous goodness, you get an extra 15% off your first purchase of $50 or more if you sign up for email updates…And you have until end of day today to get free shipping! Nuff said…

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Deal of the Day: Leather Side Panel Dress

Leather Side Panel Dress - Photo: target.com

Leather Side Panel Dress – Photo: target.com

Leather is definitely in this season! And as fashion-forward as some of us may be, showing up to the year-end financial update meeting with bikers’ leather pants…not the best career (or fashion) choice…
Well, while we may have to pass on the leather pants (sigh of relief), we can still indulge in this trend with this body-con dress with leather shoulders and side panels from…yes, you read right, Target! With a conservative yet expertly fashionable cut, a slimming silhouette,and unbeatable price, this Mossimo dress is a winner! Originally priced at $28, it is now on sale online only for $19.59!
Can you say deal?

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Are You Minding Your Corporate Culture?

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Photo: madamenoire.com

It’s year-end, and while some of us corporate sisters are vying for a promotion or raise, others are considering finding a new place of employment. New decisions are being made, new resolutions are being subscribed to (read our post on why you shouldn’t subscribe to professional resolutions this year), new professional avenues are being looked at…As this year is drawing to a close, we are all looking for ways to better ourselves, to make it further this year than last, and maybe to even finally look at this “glass ceiling” in the face and confront it once and for all…Yet few are the discussions around one aspect of our corporate struggles that we, as corporate sisters, should mind even more than others, the big C, that is, the corporate culture we are evolving in or are getting ready to evolve in as we accept a new job, a new position, or embark on a new corporate adventure.

According to wisegeek.com, “corporate culture” is “a set of characteristics that define a business”. It not only involves “employee attitudes, standards, rites and rituals”, but also reflects characteristics found in society, such as the hierarchy system for instance. Or cultural stereotypes, erroneous assumptions, sexism or  flat-out racism. And just like society, it can be positive, neutral, or plain negative… One of my big corporate sisters once told me this about the corporate jungle: “If you hadn’t experienced the real world, well, you’re about to!” In other words, if you didn’t know, now you know…

As corporate sisters, from those of us who are just entering the corporate jungle to the rest of us who have been doing the corporate “do” for a while now, culture is KEY! In order for us to evolve and grow in any environment, especially in the professionally challenging corporate space, we need to mind the culture at hand and wonder IF, and HOW we fit in. Yet it is one of the questions that is rarely asked in interviews. It is also one of the components of our success as women, and double minorities, that is not as much talked about as its resulting negative effects. Why is it that when we enter a room, we as humans are able to sense the “culture” in the room, and either adapt to it or separate ourselves from it? Likewise, when we commit ourselves to a corporate environment in which we intend to evolve and succeed, we should evaluate, measure and pre-position ourselves within the culture that we are entering.

Many a corporate sister has felt the disheartening pressure of a male-dominated, at times racially charged corporate environment. And since corporate culture is but the reflection of our culture as people in general, it should no longer be surprising. What should still surprise us, on the other hand, is that even as we struggle against and many times rise above the challenges of our world culture, we yet to have to put more into question the professional cultures we commit our successes to, possibly before we actually suffer from its negative effects…

So the next time we consider a raise, promotion, or new job, or even just a lateral move in a different department of the same company, maybe one of the first questions we should lean in and ask ourselves, as well as the person on the other side of the table, is: “What is your corporate culture, and how do I, as an ambitious, driven and successful corporate sister, fit in?”

Are you minding your corporate culture?

 

The Corporate Sister.