by Solange Lopes | Sep 23, 2016 | Career
This is our weekly career and lifestyle news update, where we round up exciting news of the last week and we let you have it…ahem, news-wise that is…
Think of it as your career gossiping section on steroids…
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Here we go…
- Newsflash! I stayed up for the Emmys this year, and boy was it worth it, women ruled this year! And I give you my best highlights in this post;
- In the news this week, Essence reports a judge rules banning dreadlocks at work is not discrimination. Your thoughts?
- Online application rejected again? Undercover Recruiter says it’s time to create your website;
- Entrepreneurs everywhere beware? Want to grow your business? Ellevate advises you start with personal development;
- Want to keep productive all day long? Business Insider credits this one morning routine for keeping you grinding all day long;
- Kudos to single moms everywhere? This Ellevate Network post looks at the real price of single motherhood;
- Sick and tired of sitting all day at work? Fast Company confirms you can now bike at your desk (yes, really);
- Want to work in media? Black Enterprise has some great tips;
- Do you know the best way to stop emotional eating? Penelope Trunk argues it’s emotional working (and I tend to agree);
- Naughty or nice? What do you think really works at work? Ellevate Network has an interesting perspective;
- Last but not least, do you think fashion’s embrace of the hijab is re-appropriating Muslim women? Check out Refinery29’s take here.
To Your Success,
Solange.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 22, 2016 | Career
So the other day my little cousin stopped by after getting off from one of her many jobs. Like many college students, Ina juggles a full class load, plus a couple of side jobs here and there. As I watched her quickly change from her scrubs to her Walgreens uniform, and listened to her talk about how crazy busy her days are, I was taken back to my time as a student when I was trying to keep up with school work, regular work and the never-ending work of figuring myself out….No wonder Rihanna’s tune “Work, work, work” rings a bell or two…Anyhow…
“How do you keep up, Ina, you’re way too busy!”, I told her, as she looked at me smiling.
“It’s actually fun, I bring a different side of me to each job, and I’m never bored. Kinda like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde thing..”
Kinda like a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, without the whole good and evil side that is…but with the perks of exploring her different talents, interests and different facets of her personality at…work! Or the freedom of bouncing back from whatever life brings at you, from moves across the country to ugly break-ups…How many of us can say we get to switch it up like this from the comfort of our cute cubicles?
What if you had the opportunity to get “unstuck” from a rigid, seemingly one-way career and instead be able to explore and experience your various interests in your career? What if the same career that tends to feel so static at times could offer you the opportunity to expand your horizons, express your many talents and cater to your many sides? What if you could re-invent yourself all throughout your career?
Ok, I hear you, we live in the real world here…Bills have to get paid, shoes bought, and (some shred) of sanity saved…When the mortgage’s due, ain’t no one exactly thinking about re-inventing anything else but your (slightly depleted) bank account, right..Yet, we also spend the majority of our lives at work; and the only thing worse than the thought of not being able to be all we can be for eight (or more) hours a day is never having dessert again…And who wants that?
Re-inventing your career is not just about deciding to quit your boring Big Corporate job to hike up the Himalayas. Or giving your notice to start your business, pursue your passion, or be a stay-at-home parent for a while. It’s not always about the big stuff. It can just be that you fell in love, fell out of love, got a divorce, or just found out you have six months to live. Or that you walking into work makes you want to hide under the sheet covers, or that everyone at your job just flat out hates you. I mean, life happens…
Whatever life throws at you or you get up and decide to do, here are three stages to doing your very own “Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde” thing at work, and re-invent your career in a way that ‘s best suited to you:
Stop and look around.
No, really, take a good hard look at yourself and where you stand in life and in your career. Is this where you expected to be at this stage of your life and career? Are you fulfilled and satisfied, or do grow restless by the day? Do you feel like there are still things you haven’t gotten the opportunity to accomplish? Where are you now, and where do you want to go?
The first step to a career, and by extension, life re-invention starts within. It starts with all those questions you really don’t want to answer, but have to face as some point or another. Those are the “tough” questions that let you know whether it’s time to do something, and change the status quo, or just ride the fantastic wave of success and fulfillment you’re on (in which case you can skip this post and go back to texting with Oprah).
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
After the first introspective stage where you stopped and took a serious look at where you stand, ask yourself this one question: “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” Believe me, the first time you utter the words, you’ll start imagining all kinds of executive meetings with Beyonce, and downing as much fried ice cream as your stomach can humanely muster…
No, but seriously, what are those things you’ve dreamt of doing in your career that you’ve never exactly had the guts to go for? For some, it could be asking for a promotion, raise or just telling your boss what you really think (let’s think about this last one some more, please). For others, it could be finally starting to write that book, or get going on that side hustle.
While it can be tempting to make grand projects as you answer this question, try and be realistic. The biggest mistake we make when re-inventing our careers is going too fast, too far away from their experience. It’s OK to go for an 180-degree change, but make sure you’re extra-committed and that you’re making gradual progress.
Sharing is caring!
Especially when trying to re-invent your career…Keeping your journey through career re-invention to yourself can hurt you more than it can benefit you. It can feel pretty lonely to start over, or branch out into something different, or go through a challenging life period with minimal support. If you have connections into the new field or business you may be going into, don’t hesitate to reach out and ask for advice or even mentorship.
It’s also a great idea to test-drive your concepts and projects before launching into a new venture or career. Having different perspectives and opinions can help you clarify things in your head, and even come up with better ideas. You can even develop your own “re-invention narrative”, a quick synopsis you can use to explain why you’re making a career change.
However, be careful who and when you talk to other people. Don’t run the risk of looking flaky by sharing your plans if you’re not quite ready to commit . And if you can’t exactly trust the office’s Chatty Cathy, you can just chat about the latest Nordstrom sales…
Have you re-invented yourself in your career? How did you go about it?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 21, 2016 | Career
Photo credit: shopstyle.com
Our “Wear toWork” feature presents a piece of workwear, along with great alternatives, for stylish corporate sisters.
For those of you who ran to The Limited after the announcement of their collaboration with actress Eva Longoria, you’re not alone! I had to gasp for air as I read the announcement myself, and absolutely have to feature some pieces from their “Work to Wine” collection! Besides, anything involving wine and high fashion has me signing up pronto…
Today’s pick is this gorgeous power knit color blocked dress, perfect for the weird transitioning period between Summer and Fall. Loving the glamorous color block detail on this flawlessly fitting dress, and the nice contrast between the tan and blue print! Just think of it as a mix between your favorite LBD and your best pair of jeans…Bonus point: it’s on sale for $111.96!
Petites
While there are not that many Petite options available online from the Eva Longoria “Wine to Work” collection, there were a couple which made me click closer. Like this faux-leather power ponte dress, perfect for Fall. Or this Eva Longoria texture power ponte in beautiful white.
Plus-Sizes
The Eva Longoria collection for The Limited doesn’t include any plus-size option, unfortunately. However, I looked around and found similar dresses, like this easy midi dress or this sunny color block sheath number, both from Eloquii.
Which one is your fave?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 21, 2016 | Career
You know the drill. You go to school, then college, or choose to skip the whole college thing and drift right into your career, or build your business. And before you know it, you’re drifting doing kinda the same thing day in and day out, wondering where you’ve lost that fire on the way…
Don’t get me wrong…Some of us, ok, very few of us, wake up jumping out of bed at the thought of reporting to work.Those are the ones you see driving in the morning with a huge grin on their faces, as you pray to your internal calm goddess to refrain from giving them the finger. Or maybe their coffee’s extra strong, something…
For the rest of us, as committed as we may be to our careers, there may be a thought, or two (or ten thousand) in the backs of our minds about what we COULD be doing instead. Thoughts about writing that best-selling novel, starting that coaching business, opening up a fitness place, may be swirling in your mind as you’re filling out your timesheet at work.
Yes, getting up and jumping from your current day job to your dream job right this minute isn’t always possible…right this minute, that is. Yet, re-inventing your career is far from being impossible. And before you start rolling your eyes, read up on these women who went from day job to dream job over time:
Viola Davis
Viola Davis graduated with a theater degree and later went on to New York’s iconic Juilliard School, so she could start a career in theater. She got her first Tony award for her role in the King Hedley II drama.
After a while, she started dabbling on TV with small roles in Law and Order and City of Angels. It wouldn’t be until she turned 43 that her career really took off after she starred opposite Meryl Streep in Doubt. Her path led her to be the first African-American woman to win Best Drama Actress at the 2015 Emmys. Can you say career re-invention?
Vera Wang
You may think of gorgeous wedding dresses when thinking of Vera Wang. Yet, you may not know she actually started as a competitive figure skater. However, after she graduated from the Sarah Lawrence college, she decided fashion would be her career focus.
After working for Vogue as a Senior Fashion Editor and Accessories Design Director for Ralph Lauren for 15 years, it wasn’t until she was 40 and planning her own wedding that she thought of opening her own bridal store. And the rest is history…
JK Rowling
On the days I’m totally discouraged and reaching for yet another Twix bar, I think of Harry Potter’s best-selling author JK Rowling. I mean, the woman wrote this incredible story over a span of years in longhand on coffee tables as her baby slept in a stroller. As she struggled through divorce, depression and welfare.
And after all this, this is what she had to say about failure in her Harvard commencement address: ” “Failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged.”
Gretchen Rubin
This best-seller author of Better Than Before and podcast host was once upon a time…an attorney. Like so many in her ex-profession, she took the “regular” path at first, went to law school and into a fairly successful legal career (at some point, she even served as a clerk for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor). Yet, her dream was to be a writer.
Two kids, three best-sellers and a popular podcast later, she reminds us that re-inventing yourself professionally helps you find your true self. She realized she’d rather “fails as a writer than succeed as a lawyer”.
What other role models of career re-invention do you have? Are you inspired to follow your true career path?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 16, 2016 | Career
This is our weekly career and lifestyle news update, where we round up exciting news of the last week and we let you have it…ahem, news-wise that is…
Think of it as your career gossiping section on steroids…
And while you’re at it, follow us on Facebook, Twitter,IG, and Pinterest!
Here we go…
- Let’s start this roundup on a happy note. Inc. lists 60 ways to find happiness in everyday;
- Levo lists 3 important workplace trends that could affect your future paycheck (#2 is very real);
- I’ve been looking forward to Luvvie Ajayi’s first book “I’m judging You“, and apparently, it’ll fix your life;
- Black Enterprise introduces us to this Tech Innovator who is spreading the Black Tech Work;
- Hate interviews? Well, Business Insider points out that psychologists say they’re a terrible way to gauge talent;
- Hate your boss? Ellevate Network has a few tips on what you can do here;
- Talking to your manager about work-life balance can be a challenge. The Glassdoor Blog has a few suggestions;
- Want to boost your networking? Ellevate offers 5 great technology tools;
- Corporette tells us all about the new elegant fashion collaboration between Eva Longoria and The Limited;
- NYFW has just ended, but history was made this season;
- Check out my Wear to Work pick this week.
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 15, 2016 | Career
Dear TGIF Addict:
You know who you are. The one who wakes up with a renewed sense of energy on Friday mornings, wishing TGIF to everyone around as if Christmas came early. The one looking forward to Friday as soon as Sunday night rolls around…
You live for Fridays and have no shame to your career game. You endure work, grit your teeth through emails and meetings, and face your to-do list with fervent prayers.
But it’s not always been this way. There was a time you looked forward to building a successful career. When you showed up early to the office, spoke up in meetings, and was brimming with all kinds of fresh ideas.
Then Life happened, with its mix of circumstances, bad bosses, great kids, pregnancies, deferred dreams, and other disruptive, albeit normal things. Maybe even somewhere in the middle of it all, you remembered your first passion and set out to hustle on the side towards it. Or you figured out the cubicle lifestyle was never for you.
Whatever it was, at some point or another, you started wishing your career away. Watching precious time pass by as you waitedfor Friday. Squandering precious talent as you dreamt of 5pm.
This is your wake-up call from the Universe! And this one ain’t got no snooze button. Stop wishing your career away! You have way too much talent, way too precious of a unique perspective, to bury it under some random cubicle desk as you wait for 5pm, for next Friday, for the winning Powerball numbers…
Find work that stimulates and grows you. And if you can’t find it right away, (side) hustle your way towards it. Whatever you choose to do, honor that part of you that’s still striving, vibrant and becoming!
Yes, bills have to get paid, shoes bought and (some shred of) sanity saved. But if that’s costing you ( and the rest of us) your precious impact to this world, you may want to reconsider that cable channel package or Louboutin sale.
However you choose to do it, refuse to lose your enthusiasm, give up your spunk and finish the (last) bag of Doritos while you wait for Friday…
Sincerely,
The Corporate Sis.
by Solange Lopes | Sep 14, 2016 | Career
Unless you’ve been hiding under a rock (or maybe lost your smartphone as you were being stranded on a deserted island), you may have heard that the first woman Presidential candidate in the US, Hillary Clinton, has pneumonia.
And this may just have been the one single disease that has received this much media coverage in a while. In the midst of conspiracy theories about possible brain damage and other claims against her “stamina”, we’re left to wonder if the problem is the pneumonia, or the woman who has been powering through countless media and campaign events while sick.
Yet, in our day and age, this shouldn’t be news. Women have been working while sick for the longest time. To care for their families, to hold down jobs, to stay up all night with a crying baby, etc. And these same women have been suffering consistent prejudice in the workplace for being weaker than their male counterparts, while they have been doing twice the work for less than half of the recognition (hello gender gap!).
According to the 2015 American Time Survey, women still do more housework and handle more of the childcare than men, even when said men don’t work. Yet, how many of these same women, have to show up for work every morning and literally have to prove that they’re as competent as their male counterparts?
The answer is way too many.
A 2014 survey by the Public Health and Safety Organization finds sickness doesn’t prevent hard-working Americans in general to show up for work. At a certain level, it’s actually considered heroic and the emblem of masculine power in higher corporate circles. Or the equivalent of “extreme sports” office-style…
I personally don’t know any woman who hasn’t powered through illness or painful bouts of that “time of the month”, or even used her sick days to care for ill children or relatives instead of herself. That’s just what’s expected of women, at the risk of being seen as weak or incompetent at work.
Even though this episode is painted in the broader and more confused landscape of politics, it still serves well to remind us that the long-standing, insidious stereotypes about women’s frailty and lack of competence are still, well…long-standing. That if a female presidential candidate can be freely attacked by her detractors on account of her health, then the rest of us might as well forfeit our vacation days for the rest of our career…
What about you? Do you think this is a stark reminder that working sick is still not news for many women out there?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis.
